Be forthright with your best friend in telling them how you feel about their crush before dating said crush or attempting to.

Where so many people fail in similar situations is when they hide it.

This is what has led to friendships ending.

You are so worried that your best friend would disapprove of you dating their crush without their knowledge.

So you do it secretly, in the hopes that somehow you can keep this from your best friend.

Inevitably, as it often does, your best friend finds out about the relationship.

Here’s the thing.

Oftentimes, it is not the fact that you are dating your best friend’s crush that ultimately hurts them the most, it is that you kept that information from them.

The feeling of betrayal is so poignant and devastating that it leads to the end of your friendship.

This is why you mustn’t go behind your best friend’s back and be secretive about dating their crush.

Be sincere about how you feel about your best friend’s crush before you make a move on that crush.

This being said, you are better off seeking out a different person to date at this time.

If your best friend is so into this crush to the point of obsession, back off for now and either find someone else or wait until this crush subsides.

Should you feel like you can’t wait, tell your best friend that you intend to date their crush and ask whether they are okay with it.

Your best friend tells you that they aren’t.

This is when you have to decide what matters most to you.

When this is a best friend with whom you have built a meaningful relationship with over the years, it isn’t worth it to put that relationship in jeopardy purely to date their crush.

There are so many dating prospects out there for you.

True friendships that stand the test of time are a lot more difficult to find and sustain.

This is when you have to place a value on your relationship with your best friend.

How much do they mean to you?

How much would losing them as a best friend affect your life?

These are important questions to consider before making your decision on whether to move on this crush when your best friend has told you not to.

In a circumstance where you value your relationship with your best friend more than that of a dating prospect, respect your best friend’s wishes and avoid dating their crush.

In a scenario where your best friend tells you that you can go ahead and go for their crush, take a step back and think.

Although your best friend gave you the green light, there are issues to contemplate.

How would your best friend feel if they saw you with this crush most of the time?

They would feel hurt or pain from being abandoned.

Do you want this?

Even in a scenario like this, keep your priorities straight.

Never ignore your relationship with your best friend.

This friendship matters too.

Maintain a good balance between the two so that you don’t make your best friend feel worse about letting you go for their crush.