If you have never had a girlfriend and you want one, you should first and foremost take a look at yourself and your life. Doing this is absolutely crucial.
Hence, do take a moment to truly comport yourself and perform this reflection. You may even want to grab a pen and paper to make notes.
In essence, there have to be adjustments made in order to get a girlfriend.
Thereby, you really have to be willing to be very honest with yourself.
In some ways, being honest with yourself is the hardest part of this process. It forces you to come to terms with areas of your life and temperament that you may not necessarily be too proud of.
The first thing to look at is your self-esteem.
How do you value yourself? In other words, do you think highly of yourself or not?
If you don’t think highly of yourself, this will have to change. You have to allow yourself to realize your value and worth. This in turn enables you to grow your self-confidence.
Self-confidence is absolutely crucial if you want to have a girlfriend. If you realize that you don’t have much of it, you will have to build it.
One of the best ways to build your self-confidence is to begin challenging yourself to do little challenging tasks each day.
Challenge yourself to do something that is not typically within your normal routine.
It may be saying hello to a complete stranger; venturing through a different part of town that you don’t normally take in order to get to a particular destination; changing your mode of transportation by perhaps taking the bus one day and being around strangers; eating something that you have never tried or talking to an acquaintance that you haven’t spoken to in a while.
The possibilities are endless. The point here is that you begin to take on these smaller tasks that force you to break out of what you typically feel at ease doing.
As you make it habit to do these small tasks, you will start feeling enough confidence to make the challenges harder.
You may decide to join a completely new group of strangers who share a particular interest with you. You may decide to take a weekend trip to a particular place and go on an adventure site-seeing.
In other words, you will begin to enjoy your own company and what you are about.
As you begin to grow this self-confidence, it will attract other people.
People are drawn to others who show a sense of gusto and adventure in life. You become like a moth to a flame to them. This will be your opportunity to start getting to know these new people that will come into your life. Many of them will also be girls.
Try not to get overly excited about the first girl that starts showing you attention. Instead, play it cool.
Talk as though you are simply getting to know them. Don’t be afraid to talk yourself up when it comes to the new adventures that you engage in on a daily to weekly basis.
Again, keep it light and easy. If you get overexcited, they will notice and it may turn them off. She should get the impression that this is the kind of attention that you are used to getting from girls and people in general. It will make her see you as more of a catch.
This will put you in the best position to get a girlfriend as you build up rapport with several of them over time.
You will become intriguing and thereby hard to resist.
You will also be able to start picking up on what a girl tends to respond to in a positive way during interaction and this bodes well for your future interactions with girls.