She is your ex-girlfriend for a reason.

It’s tempting to want to reunite with her when you have found no one else to replace her.

But, think with your head, not your heart.

Since the breakup, you have not been successful in getting over her.

On top of that, you weren’t happy to learn that she had moved on and gotten into a new relationship, while you remained single.

Before you knew it, you were looking for any information you could find about her new boyfriend.

Subconsciously, you compared yourself to him.

You didn’t want to believe that he was better than you.

For months you watched her movements on social media, curious about this new boyfriend, not wanting to believe that he was making her happier than you did.

It gave you great pleasure to learn that they had recently broken up.

Since learning this news, you have been filled with a desire to get back with her.

You have been tempted to text or call her.

Whenever you think about her, you are consumed with getting back with her.

It gets so overwhelming at times, you can’t sleep.

It’s time to put the brakes on your thoughts and desires.

As aforementioned, the two of you broke up for a reason.

You are conveniently forgetting that during the course of your relationship with her, there were fights, fiery disagreements, insults, deceit, etc.

None of these issues have gone away.

If you were to get back with your ex-girlfriend, these issues are going to arise again.

This is inevitable.

No matter how much you tell yourself that things are going to be different this time around, that is facile.

These are your emotions getting the best of you.

You aren’t thinking with your head, but with your heart.

Although you shared a good number of good times with her, the bad times outweighed the good.

In the end, you weren’t compatible with each other.

This isn’t uncommon.

Until a couple have been together for a sustained period of time, they have no idea what skeletons there are in the closet.

When you first met each other, you brought your best selves.

You were looking to impress each other.

At such an early stage, it’s difficult to see the flaws in each other.

You are too caught up in how good you make each other feel.

It was only after you were with each other for a sustained period of time that the skeletons came out of the closet.

This is when you are no longer in the honeymoon phase of a relationship.

There is less pleasure-inducing dopamine being released in the brain that would keep you from seeing each other’s flaws.

The flaws became plain as day once the honeymoon phase was over.

This is when the fights, fiery disagreements, insults, deceit, etc., commenced.

Consequently, your relationship became a shadow of what it once was.

Don’t forget this.

The breakup was a sign that you aren’t compatible as long-term partners.

This won’t change were she to decide to take you back.

All that would happen is a few weeks of bliss before the fireworks get underway all over again.