It keeps happening to you and you are sick of it.

Some guy at work, school, the gym, grocery store, on the street, etc., approaches you and opens a conversation.

He is charming and interesting, and you didn’t realize how quickly the time went by as he was talking to you.

Phone numbers and socials are exchanged.

The conversation progresses.

There is so much that you have in common with each other.

It feels like you have finally met the right guy.

Suddenly, the bombshell happens.

He tells you that he is already in a committed relationship with a wife or girlfriend.

Just when you thought that your luck had changed and you had met the right guy, straight out of a romance novel, he tells you that he is already in a committed relationship weeks or months later.

It hits you with the velocity of a semi-truck on the interstate.

You swear off men.

A few weeks later, another charming guy approaches you with swag and phenomenal conversational skills.

You are swept off of your feet again and several weeks of amazing conversation ensue.

Sadly, the bubble bursts when he reveals that he is in a committed relationship, but he really wants to stay friends.

Your hopes are shattered yet again, and you are right back at square one.

You are sick and tired of being used as a temporary play toy by these men who are already in committed relationships.

It’s like you are an ego boost to them, or someone that keeps them preoccupied during a period of boredom in their relationships.

Once they have used you to fill in the gap during this period, they summarily discard you, as they reset their focus on their partners.

Meanwhile, you are the one left behind, forgotten.

Alright, it’s obvious that you have been through a rollercoaster of emotions with respect to attracting men who are already in committed relationships.

It’s no wonder you are frustrated and unhappy about being the one that is left with nothing when it is all said and done.

There have been several moments where you equated your self-worth to that of a discarded toilet paper.

Here is some information that you probably aren’t aware of.

Men who are already in committed relationships are notorious for approaching women.

This isn’t an issue that only lies with you.

On the same week that you were approached by one of these men, he had already approached multiple women before you.

Know that you aren’t unique to this phenomenon.

There isn’t a beacon on your head that attracts these men straight to you.

These men approach women they find attractive, regardless.

Hopefully, you feel a little bit better in knowing that you aren’t the only one who goes through this unsavory ordeal.

That being said, there are a few changes you can make to reduce the number of times you attract men who are already in committed relationships.

Men in committed relationships have to be home with their wives or girlfriends by a certain time.

If you do more of your personal business after office hours and into the night, or on weekends, you run into less men who are in committed relationships.

Doing this cuts back on the chances that you are wandering through a grocery store aisle at 9 pm at night and you get approached by a man who is already in a committed relationship.

By this time, most of these men are at home with their wives or girlfriends.

Same thing applies to the gym.

Going there in the mornings only increases the threat that you are approached by a man who is already in a committed relationship who is getting his morning workout in before going to work.

Rather, going in at night saves you from getting approached by most of these men, given that they are at home with their wives or girlfriends.

The same thing applies to the days you conduct your personal business.

Men in committed relationships are off on the weekends and with their wives and girlfriends.

If you do more of your personal outings over the weekends, you are exposed to less of these men, which reduces the odds that you get approached by them.

All of this being said, it’s impossible to completely eliminate all of these men from approaching you.

Even if you conduct most of your business after hours or over the weekends, a few of them are bound to get through and approach you.

When these get through, get into a routine of immediately looking for a ring when he approaches you.

If you see one, he is disqualified.

Don’t entertain a conversation with him.

Politely bid him adieu and get away from him.

Supposing that he isn’t wearing a ring, there is a simple test to verify whether he is single or not.

Invite him to have a drink with you over the weekend, and specify a time and place.

A single guy jumps at this opportunity, given that it is rare for a woman to be this forward with him.

A guy who is already in a committed relationship is less enthusiastic, considering that he already knows that he is to be hanging out with his wife or girlfriend over the weekend.

He doesn’t commit to your proposal, but acts as though he is open to it by giving you a nebulous response.

You have your answer.

He isn’t worth continuing to talk to.