Initially, it’s exciting to have this ex-girlfriend back in your life after 1-3 years.

Life was a mixed bag for you during the course of those years.

You dated here and there, but no one stuck, nor matched what your ex-girlfriend was like.

She seemingly went through the same ordeal with her love life.

She dated around, had a few short-lived relationships, but never found anyone quite like you.

Meanwhile, life in general outside of your love life was similarly mediocre.

There were successes and failures.

You got a promotion at work, went on a trip with friends, moved into a better apartment, lost a pet, lost a grandparent, and canceled a credit card that a fraudster somewhere in the world had somehow gained access to.

Needless to say, the last 1-3 years has had its ups and downs.

All through it all, there was a missing quotient.

Her.

Every time you had a success during those 1-3 years, it never quite felt as good without having her by your side to share it with.

Same thing with when you had failures or setbacks.

It would have been nice to have her by your side for her support in those tough moments.

Out of nowhere as you are trudging through life, you receive an unexpected text message from her.

After a few text message exchanges, you and her are back on talking terms.

It begins innocently enough, with well wishes exchanged in the early conversations you have with each other.

But then the conversations progress into topics related to your past relationship with each other.

You two realize that you are at the same place emotionally.

Your lives have mirrored each other’s in the last 1-3 years.

There has been a missing element in your lives.

Each other.

Soon after this realization, a date is set to see each other in person.

This is about to be the first meeting between you in years, and you are nervous.

You don’t quite understand why.

It’s not like you haven’t been out on dates with her in the past.

She used to be your girlfriend for crying out loud.

Yet, you are nervous.

When you meet her at the date, a flood of emotions rush through you.

So familiar too.

It’s like the first date you ever took her on.

You feel the exact butterflies that you did then.

She is as overcome with her emotions as you are with yours.

The date leads to a trip back to your place.

Clothes are being thrown to the floor, and the bed in your bedroom is terrorized for hours, as you get reacquainted with each other’s bodies.

This scenario is as cookie-cutter as it gets.

Talk to anyone you know in your life who has gotten back with an ex, and you will hear a similar or close to similar story.

Your lives weren’t as fulfilled without each other, and the inevitable happened.

A reunion date that inevitably leads to the bedroom and a creaking bed.

You are so blinded by what has been missing in your life for the last 1-3 years that you have conveniently forgotten the reason why there was a breakup in the first place.

None of those deep-rooted issues have gone away.

For the first few months of a reunion, either ex is in a honeymoon phase.

Having more sex with each other than they have had since their breakup.

Going out on more dates than they ever did during the duration of their past relationship.

Sadly, this is destined to be short-lived.

Statistics show that exes who get back together break up again within 3 to 6 months of their reunion.

It is within this period that the honeymoon phase ends and the same old problems that led to the end of their first relationship start occurring again.

Exes get so blinded by the initial emotions they feel when they reunite, they fail to acknowledge the reality that they aren’t compatible with each other for the long term.