A male partner with no ambition doesn’t want to think about the future all that much.

He is living in the moment.

He doesn’t want to think about the future so that he doesn’t have to work towards it.

The fact that he has no ambition was evident when you chose to date him.

Yet, you chose to date him anyway, thinking that he would change as time went on.

That didn’t happen.

He still has no ambition and it has become a much bigger issue for you, now that you have grown as a person in the relationship.

Well, your male partner didn’t grow with you.

You have grown, but he hasn’t.

This is where you find yourself today.

He was unambitious from the start, but you made yourself believe that as the relationship progressed over time, he would evolve as a person.

A male partner with no ambition, is unlikely to change this far into your relationship with him.

Being that you have grown as a person, he should have been growing alongside you, inspired by your energy.

He didn’t.

As you have grown, he has remained static, or regressed.

He has gotten comfortable in the relationship.

Considering that he already has you as a girlfriend, he isn’t motivated to have ambition.

As far as he is concerned, he is already at the finish line with you.

In his mind, there is no reason to push himself harder to attain an unforeseen future goal.

He has you.

If anything, in the event you achieve further success in areas outside of your relationship with him, such as in your education or career, he will look at that as his success too.

After all, he is your partner.

This is what you signed up for when you chose to date him, even though you chose to believe that he would grow as a person and develop an ambition as time went on.

All of this being said, you have invested quite a bit of time in this relationship thus far, and you aren’t ready to completely give up on this male partner.

To this end, try this.

Have a candid conversation with him, not about his lack of ambition, but about his favorite interests.

This way, you don’t make him too self-conscious about his lack of ambition, but more so focused on his favorite interests.

The idea is to get him to think about his favorite pastimes and which one of those gives him the greatest inspiration to pursue as a legitimate future career.

As you talk to him about his favorite pastimes, don’t overdo it.

Let him take it and run with it.

All you are doing is giving him a guide to get on a path that inspires him to figure out what he would like to do with his future.

Seeing that he has never thought too hard about his interests as avenues for a future career, you facilitate in putting him on that path in his mind.

During the time that he has been your boyfriend, you have seen him enjoy fixing the plumbing about the house, building furniture for the house, dabbling in online content about stocks and finances, fixing his car and yours, landscaping the home and that of the neighbor’s, etc.

These are activities you have seen him do in his free time that he has shown a love for by doing them repeatedly and with vigor.

By mentioning a few of these areas of interest, there could be one or more that stick out to him, or you inspire him to come up with a better one.

Either way, you put his mind on a path to figure out whether he has an interest that he can go after as a lucrative future career.

A career being a builder, plumber, electrician, mechanic or engineer, financial advisor, landscaper, etc.

Whatever it is that you have seen him do with love and passion in his free time over the time that you have been dating him is a good start.

Watch his behavior moving forward.

If he takes the next steps to make one or more of his interests a path toward future professional success, it’s probable he develops ambition.

All you had to do was give him a few ideas and let him go after it.

On the flip side, if he doesn’t get on this path, or does it for a few weeks, and falls back into having no direction or motivation in life, it’s time to dump him.

This is a clear sign that you have outgrown him, and you are no longer compatible with each other.