Your single mom has recently started sleeping with this guy for a reason.
Even though you don’t like this guy at all, take a moment to ask yourself why.
Does this have anything to do with your father?
Is there a part of you that is unhappy with the presence of another man in your mom’s life besides that of your father?
Is there a part of you that believes your mom is betraying or dishonoring your father in sleeping with this new guy?
Are you worried that your mom is opening herself up to getting hurt by a man you believe is just as emotionally or physically abusive as your father?
Whether you are on your father’s side or not, think about whether your own personal emotions are a major factor as to why you don’t like this guy.
Should that be the case, you are doing your mom a disservice in not giving this guy a fair chance.
Your mom knows what makes her happy.
If this guy is fulfilling that happiness in some capacity, who are you to rob her of it?
Believing that you are looking out for your mom isn’t a good enough reason.
The truth is, you aren’t your mom.
You don’t know what makes her happy within.
She has recently started sleeping with this guy because she sees value in him.
He is fulfilling her in some capacity.
The hope is that she has lived enough life and made enough mistakes to know what to look for in a man she wants to date.
That being said, if you are worried that she has made a bad choice in this guy, you have to leave it to her to learn that lesson.
If you choose to interfere in her personal affairs right now, she is bound to see you as someone that is attempting to impede her happiness.
The effect would be the opposite of what you are intending.
By voicing your disapproval of this guy, you make her think that you are judging her and treating her like a child.
It’s akin to parents telling their teenage daughter not to date a guy they don’t like.
What does the teenage girl usually do in these circumstances?
Unless she is absolutely terrified of her parents, she dates the guy behind their back to spite them.
Your single mom is grown.
Unlike the teenage girl, she won’t have to date this guy behind your back.
She will defy you in the open.
All you achieve by interfering in her personal affairs is compel her to keep sleeping with this guy, with an additional motivation to spite you.
No matter how much you believe you are looking out for your single mom, she is a grown woman whose personality is rigidly set.
She won’t listen to you.
In the unfortunate event that this guy is a bad apple who ends up hurting her, the onus is on your mom to learn her lesson.
Hopefully, that means she makes a better choice in who next she chooses to sleep with, or date.