Girls aren’t used to rejection.

Throughout her life, she has been the one doing the rejecting.

She is the one that is pursued by a guy and asked out.

This is her background and what she knows.

She has hardly ever had to deal with the concept of rejection.

The thought of it is alien to her.

How do human beings naturally respond to the unknown?

We fear it.

The thought of asking a guy out is scary enough.

It is the unknown.

She isn’t used to it and has never had to worry about having to do this throughout her life.

She is used to men asking her out, and has never had to contend with how a guy feels when he takes a risk on asking her out.

All she has ever had to contend with is in whether she says yes or no to him.

Whenever there have been moments in her life where she intensely liked a guy who was yet to ask her out, she used a variety of tactics to get his attention.

Rather than asking him out directly and risking rejection, she keeps looking in his direction intent on catching his eye.

In catching his eye, she is anticipating that he gets the message, realizes that she has an interest in him, and approaches her.

When that hasn’t worked in the past, she switches tactics by getting physically closer to him with a few of her friends, making sure that she is loud or animated in his presence.

The idea is to catch his attention and have him talk to her.

When that hasn’t worked in the past, she switches tactics and dresses provocatively, intent on catching his eye and getting him to make a move on her.

These are but a few tactics in her repertoire that she has used in the past when a guy she liked was slow to make a move on her.

Notice that in all of these moments, she didn’t approach him directly and ask him out, owing to the fact that she is afraid of rejection.

It’s the fear of the unknown.

She doesn’t know that he is going to reject her, but the thought of it is too scary for her to accept.

As a guy who has had to deal with rejection from girls as early as grade school, the thought of being rejected is scary, but nowhere near as scary as it is to women.

Women aren’t raised to have to deal with rejection.

Rejection is the unknown, and there is a natural inclination to fear it.

That is what us human beings do.

For her, the concept of getting rejected isn’t relegated to that one moment.

It ties in to her complete perception of her own beauty.

Ever since she was a little girl, she has been told that she is beautiful.

Her parents and teachers never wasted an opportune moment to tell her that, nor did the young boys in school.

She participated in beauty pageants and was runner-up for homecoming queen.

Her whole life she has been filled with constant reaffirmation from family, friends, and society at large that she is beautiful.

This is completely unlike her male counterpart.

A man doesn’t grow up being repeatedly told that he is gorgeous.

This is what makes so many men fully conscious of where they stand on the measure meter of good looks, and several are humbled by this.

A girl, on the other hand, is told she is beautiful from an early age and this only slows down when she is middle-aged.

This makes her doubly afraid at the idea of asking a guy out and getting rejected.

That rejection would shatter everything she has been made to believe about her beauty since she was a little girl.

This is far too earthshattering for her to contend with.

To save herself from this cataclysmic moment, she doesn’t ask him out.