Your last partner hurt you by betraying you in the worst possible fashion.

Her betrayal is what has led to the real trust issues that you are grappling with at this moment.

Unfortunately, you were so devastated by what transpired with her, you have no appetite to go through that again with someone new.

As a consequence, you aren’t looking forward to dating again.

As far as you are concerned, the next person you date is sure to be as unfaithful as your last partner.

This means that you are severely emotionally compromised by what transpired in your previous relationship.

At this point in time, even though you are newly single again, you don’t have the mental and emotional capacity to handle a new relationship.

This isn’t the time to be thinking about dating again.

Your trust issues run deep and are far too real to ignore.

Take time out from dating to resolve the harsh emotions that you are feeling right now.

Although you are not sure whether you will ever date again, it’s too soon to make this assessment.

Putting in the work to resolve the emotional fallout from your previous relationship, has to be the first priority.

Without doing this, even if you change your mind and start dating again, your new relationship is destined to fail.

Basically, you would be entering a new relationship as an emotionally compromised person.

Meaning, you are bound to make the same mistakes as you did in the last relationship.

Yes, you do have culpability for the failure of your last relationship.

It is far easier for someone in your shoes to blame a past girlfriend for why the relationship failed.

The truth is, you are culpable for how the relationship faltered too.

You chose to date her without looking into her past.

You never took the time to look into her dating history to find out whether she had a history of trustworthiness to her exes.

No, you chose to dive right into a relationship with her without doing your homework first.

It’s no wonder the relationship didn’t work out.

You got too caught up on how she looked on the outside, instead of finding out about what she was like on the inside.

Furthermore, you weren’t paying attention to what she was desperately communicating to you during the course of the relationship.

How many times did you ignore her when she complained to you about what she was feeling?

When a woman keeps complaining about an issue, and her partner isn’t heeding her, it’s only a matter of time before she seeks emotional support from someone else.

At first, she turns to her closest friends and family for emotional support, but the longer these issues persist, she is eventually turning to one of her guy friends.

The guys in her social circle are all waiting for an opening to sleep with her.

Long before you started dating her, several of them had been waiting in the wings, ready to swoop in to the rescue as her savior at her time of emotional need.

Finally, one of these guy friends got their shot, thanks to your refusal to address her complaints.

Every time she talked to him, he listened and reassured her, easing her emotional discomfort with words of support.

He knew that as long as he was emotionally supportive of her, she was bound to rely on him for all of her emotional needs, and that is what happened.

Before she knew it, an emotional affair had progressed into a physical one.

When you don’t prioritize communication in a relationship, you are asking for trouble.

Communication requires that you not only talk, but listen.

You weren’t listening to your girlfriend’s complaints, nor doing anything about them.

This is what compelled her to look to someone else to get her emotional needs met.

Once this happens, it won’t take long before an emotional affair segues into a physical affair.

Now that you are newly single, take the time to come to terms with where you went wrong in the last relationship.

This resolves negative emotions.

Only after doing this are you ready to date again.