Someone that is noncommittal is worried about making themselves vulnerable.

He doesn’t want to commit to a relationship, fearful that it forces him to have to drop his guard.

His guard has been protecting him for a while now.

It has kept him from getting hurt or getting taken advantage of.

He put this mental guard up after he was hurt in a previous relationship.

He was in love with her and thought that he was spending the rest of his life with her.

That didn’t happen.

In lieu of this, she betrayed him by cheating.

Once this happened, he went through a rough time reconciling his hurt emotions.

It took a while for him to live with what happened.

He swore that he wasn’t letting himself be so gullible ever again.

He was protecting his heart and emotions from now on.

That is when the mental wall in his mind went up.

It was his mental block from anything ever getting through and hurting him again.

The sad part is that since he did this, he has met good women.

Women of good character who weren’t inclined to cheat on him.

Sadly, he never let these women in.

He kept them at a distance as he dated them.

As far as he was concerned, he wasn’t opening himself up to any woman ever again, irrespective of how good or kind she was to him.

He treats any new woman he dates with the same suspicion.

Unfortunately, he sees his cheating ex in every woman he dates.

He can’t help but compare any woman he dates to her, and to an extent, this keeps reminding him that he must never let his guard down.

Every now and then, he has come close to letting his guard down with a woman.

He opens up to the woman a little bit too much by telling her a little secret about himself.

However, the moment he realizes that his words have only prompted her to pry for more information about him as a person, he quickly pulls back.

The mental wall shoots right back up and he quietly lambasts himself for having a moment of weakness.

There are several reasons why a guy is noncommittal, but a prior partner who cheated on him is one of the most common reasons.

The good news about a guy like this is that he isn’t as closed off to commitment as he thinks he is.

The way you break through starts with you keeping yourself from becoming emotionally attached to him too soon.

Too many women make the mistake of becoming emotionally attached too soon.

Once this happens, they ask him questions that make him uncomfortable, forcing him to put his mental wall up that much higher.

Don’t commit this blunder.

In lieu of this, avoid becoming emotionally attached too soon.

Just hang out with him without any pressure or expectations, and never ask anything of him that is personally sensitive.

Once he realizes that whenever he is chatting, hanging out, or going out on dates with you, you never ask him any deep personal questions, he instinctively becomes comfortable around you because he doesn’t feel threatened.

As long as you are patient in doing this each and every time you chat, hang out at home, or go on a date with him, he is naturally inclined to start divulging information about himself without any prompting from you.

When he does this, do not fall into the temptation in taking this to mean that you are permitted to go all out and ask him personal questions that delve deeper into what he has told you.

A woman’s immediate instinct is to do this, but don’t.

Respond with surface-level statements that let him know that you are listening, but don’t ask him deep personal questions.

This keeps him from clamping up mentally and emotionally.

As time goes on, he is sure to divulge more and more personal information about himself to you as you chat with him, hang out, or go out on dates.

As long as you don’t ask him probing questions in return, and just let him talk, he is subconsciously pushing his mental wall down and doesn’t realize it.

Before he knows it, he is asking you whether you have anything to say about a bit of personal information about himself that he divulged in that moment.

Basically, he is asking your opinion.

At this point, you have all but broken through his mental wall.

In responding to his question, be nonjudgmental and supportive.

This lets him know that you are on his side.

Moving forward from here, there is a palpable difference in how he interacts with you.

He is hinting at making you his girlfriend.

You have passed a test he didn’t consciously know that he was running on you, and for the first time in years, he sees himself committing to a girl.