Needy men in relationships progressively become leeches who lose their own identity, and assimilate that of their girlfriend’s.

A man that is incapable of being self-assured in who he is, and without a fulfilling life of his own, is a turn off to women.

Once he gets a girlfriend, his whole life becomes all about her.

He wants to hang out with her all the time, and is incapable of not texting her for any stretch of time.

Selfishly, he wants to keep her all to himself, and doesn’t like it when she is out having fun with her family and friends.

It means that she is giving her attention to other people and this is upsetting to him.

A needy man didn’t get much attention from his loved ones growing up.

He was starved of their love and attention.

This is what led to his abandonment issues.

Once he gets a girlfriend, he is desperate to have her love him and give him her undivided attention.

There is a perennial fear that he is about to lose her love and attention at any moment.

He doesn’t want to be abandoned by his girlfriend.

She is the focal point of his love, and the longer he is with her, the greater the love he develops for her.

This foments a stronger emotional attachment to her, which makes him that much more dependent on her approval and reassurance.

Being that he has abandonment issues, he freaks out when she isn’t around for any length of time.

In these situations, a dread develops within him.

He is worrying that she has abandoned him, as was done to him when he was a child by loved ones.

This is what entices him to send her multiple text messages, and make multiple phone calls to her.

He hasn’t heard from her in an hour and is panicking that he has lost her.

He requires reassurance.

When she finally responds to his text messages or phone calls, he feels relief.

She hasn’t abandoned him after all, and still cares for him.

He was suffocating until she finally responded to him, and now, he gets to breathe.

This behavior is so overwhelming to women, even to those that love it when a man shows his needy side.

These are women who enjoy it when he is showing that he misses her or wants to hear from her.

Notwithstanding, in time, even this type of woman gets fed up with a needy guy.

It has gone from cute gestures of neediness to a desperate obsession.

She doesn’t want to have to constantly reply to his texts as she is hanging out with her family and friends.

There are times where she brings him along to hang out with her family and friends, and he is nothing but exasperating.

He doesn’t make an effort to talk to members of her family and friend circle.

He is socially awkward and closed off.

Whenever a friend of hers or a family member is attempting to have a conversation with him, he doesn’t care to have much of a conversation with them.

He is giving one-word responses and sulking.

All he cares about is having his girlfriend by his side.

So he goes looking for her.

Next thing she knows, he is butting into her conversations with friends or family members, pushing to get her away from them.

Soon after, he is telling her that they should go home.

She is now having to cut the night short to leave with him.

A needy man is such a turn off to women, given the burden she bears in having to wholly support him emotionally.

He requires constant reassurance and struggles to build his own platonic relationships.

All of this makes dating a needy man more hassle than it is worth.