A girl that approaches you first isn’t an everyday occurrence.
For her to do this, she has a load of confidence.
It isn’t a red flag.
Even the most extroverted girls aren’t inclined to immediately approach.
They prefer to send signals in your direction first.
Sometimes, the bravest of them approach when you aren’t reading their signals, but the majority still choose not to approach.
These are the extroverted girls that we are talking about here.
The ones who talk to everyone and anyone.
The ones who are posting content on their social media at almost every hour.
The ones who are loud and love being the center of attention.
These girls struggle to approach a guy too.
All of this is to say that it is not common for a girl to approach you first.
To see it as a red flag, is to be far too harsh.
A girl finally has the courage to approach a guy and you look at it as a red flag?
A mindset like this is already uncalled for.
Any negative body language unfairly directed at her as she attempts to open a conversation with you, makes you a jerk.
It discourages her from ever doing it again with a different guy.
When her story gets around, any girl that hears it who was strongly considering approaching a guy first decides against it.
Don’t ruin it for the rest of mankind out there who would welcome the rare approach of a woman.
Let’s face it, the only reason why you are wondering whether a girl approaching a guy first is a red flag is in regards to your lack of attraction for her.
The truth is, if the girl of your dreams approached you first, the idea that this is a red flag won’t cross your mind one bit.
Imagine it.
A girl with the perfect face and body, who looks like your favorite female celebrity, is stepping up to you.
What are your thoughts in that moment?
Are you thinking red flag or that you are the luckiest guy in the world?
You are thinking the latter.
You are overjoyed that your favorite female celebrity lookalike has approached you out of nowhere and has opened a conversation with you.
You are sweating, nervous, besides yourself, looking about to see whether anyone else is seeing what is happening before your very eyes.
Your heart is pounding at a thousand beats a second, and you are already visualizing what a life with her looks like.
Dare I say, you are already seeing and naming your future children with her.
Alright, I took it a bit too far, but you get the gist.
You won’t look at it as a red flag should a girl approach you first that you consider to be your type.
Therein lies the rub, as Shakespeare once wrote.
A girl that approaches you first is far less likely to be your type.
Beautiful women lack the confidence to approach a guy because they have never had to do it.
Guys approach them all the time.
A beautiful woman is terrified at the prospect of rejection by a guy.
It shatters her vanity, forcing her to question her beauty, and by so doing, her worth.
This is far too risky.
As a consequence, very few beautiful women ever approach a guy.
That means that if you get approached by a girl, the chances that you won’t be attracted to her are strong.
That doesn’t mean that she is a red flag.
It means that she has the confidence to do what confident guys who aren’t attractive do all the time in approaching girls who are out of their league.
The only difference is, the shoe is now on the other foot.
In a world where more women approached men, this is the likely result.
A number of average to alright looking confident girls shooting their shot with a guy that is out of their league.
After all, if they are taking a risk of getting rejected upon making an approach, it might as well be from a guy that is out of her league.
These women would be no different from men who approach women today.
This doesn’t mean either gender is a red flag.
It means they are going for broke.