A string of poor or disappointing experiences in dating have led to you feeling down on your luck with love.

This feeling suffocates you to such an extent, you have a physiological reaction to it.

You have a loss of appetite and fatigue through much of the day.

It’s as though your mind and body are no longer yours.

Rather, you have been taken over by a parasite that is sucking the life out of you, from within.

You have no hope, as there isn’t a future that you aspire to, and any long-term goals you once had have been sidelined.

You are drowning and there are no life vests.

Lots of people have been where you are currently.

They have had a string of failed romantic relationships, making them believe that they seriously have no luck with love.

Like you, they went through not only a mental reaction to this, but a physiological one too.

They had a loss of appetite and a case of constant fatigue.

It felt hopeless.

Yet, several of them ended up getting out of their rut.

They found love and hope was restored.

The people who are successful at finding love amid so much historical disappointment are the ones who learn from their mistakes.

They stopped blaming their previous partners for why a relationship failed, and looked to themselves.

As human beings, we have a propensity to throw ourselves a pity party.

We moan about how badly we were wronged by an ex, and wallow in this morass of self-pity for far too long.

How many times have you asked yourself about where you went wrong in the past with your love life?

It’s unlikely you have ever done this, or done it with any level of seriousness.

When you have had a string of failures in your love life, the common denominator is you.

You are the one in the middle of all of this bad luck.

That means that this string of bad luck ends with you taking responsibility for the failed relationships you have had.

Plus, being open-minded enough to make changes in how you go about your love life.

Think about the women you have chosen to get into relationships with in the past.

Are they all fairly similar in temperament?

Change it up.

Think about talking to women who aren’t what you are used to dating.

This opens you up to new personalities.

Take a break from the extroverted girl, and date an introvert.

Take a break from the outdoorsy girl, and date a book nerd.

Open yourself up to something new.

It doesn’t mean that you will take to any of these women, but it gets you out of your comfort zone, empowering you to explore.

It is while you are in this process that you get clearer answers as to why you have been drawn to the women that you have had failed relationships with in the past.

This is where you learn that much of this has to do with you looking for an emotional component that is deficient in yourself.

To make up for this deficiency, you have chosen the women you have dated in the past.

Yet, you overlook several qualities she possesses that aren’t compatible with your own.

You are far too concerned with that which fulfills you.

This never works in the long term.

No matter how much she fulfills that emotional component that is missing in you, it isn’t enough to sustain a long-term relationship.

It’s inevitable that a clash of personalities is afoot.

Once this happens, yet another relationship has failed.

Stop looking for women to fulfill whatever emotional component you believe is missing within you.

Work on yourself to fulfill that emotional component, for yourself.

This calls for you to take decisive action.

Connect with people who have had the same deficiency and overcame it.

These people are your support network, and have great practical advice, given that they have suffered through the same issue.

Read extensive literature about the emotional component you are deficient of from reputable sources and heed the solutions provided.

Make peace with people from your past who have wronged you, and you have wronged.

Being proactive in applying yourself is what finally accomplishes this fulfillment within you, and you never have to rely on someone else to temporarily fulfill it for you.

This is what makes you whole.

Once you are whole, you are no longer desperately seeking out partners who fulfill this emotional component.

You already have it.

The next partner you have is one that adds to your happiness and nothing more.