A girl that has a crush on a guy has created an idea of what the guy is like in her mind.

She has attributed several of the ideal characteristics she wants in a partner on her crush.

As far as she is concerned, her crush is the embodiment of what she is looking for in a partner.

She has visualized herself by his side as his girlfriend.

In her vision, she is safe and secure with him, and happier than she has ever been.

He knows what makes her feel special, meets her emotional needs, and has goals that are aligned with hers.

She has told her friends and family about this crush, and they have told her that he sounds like her perfect match.

How couldn’t they?

She tells them everything she believes is breathtaking about him, embellishing so much of it.

All of the good, none of the bad.

The good keeps her on an emotional high.

As far as she is concerned, he can do no wrong.

After all, this is her crush.

He is the guy she goes to bed thinking about, and wakes up thinking about.

As she goes about her day, he remains on her thoughts.

When she is at school, work, the mall, at the beauty salon, working out at the gym, etc., she is thinking about him.

He is on her mind 24/7.

She has become so emotionally wrapped up in these thoughts that she has made herself believe that he is doing the same.

She wants to believe that he is thinking about her 24/7 too.

He is retiring to bed thinking about her, and waking up thinking about her.

When he is at school, work, fixing his car, playing video games with his buddies, walking his dog, etc., he is thinking about her.

This notion becomes more reinforced when she sees him in person and he demonstrates behavior that she interprets as a sign that he likes her.

These are the moments where he looks in her direction, smiles at her, or briefly brushes past her, and she takes that to mean that he likes her and has been thinking about her too.

Being that she is so emotionally taken by her crush, she is susceptible to drawing these conclusions about him.

In her mind, he has spent the last several weeks and months with the same powerful thoughts about her.

With all of this emotional buildup, the one thing that would instantly make her lose interest in a guy she initially had a crush on would be to learn that he doesn’t like her.

This news completely shatters all of the thoughts and emotions she has undergone in the last several weeks and months.

It’s such a brutal realization, she spends the next several weeks and months emotionally debilitated.

During this time, she is doing everything in her power to eschew seeing or running into her crush.

It’s far too painful to do so.

Rather, she spends those weeks and months relying on the emotional support of her family and friends.