A girl at a coffee shop is working on her laptop while enjoying her favorite coffee drink.

If she isn’t working on her laptop, she is reading, or just taking some time out as she enjoys her favorite coffee drink.

She likes the relaxed atmosphere of a coffee shop.

This means that her guard is fairly down.

Meaning, she is not adverse to being approached.

This being said, you should approach her correctly.

Even though her guard is relatively down in a coffee shop, a bad approach makes her guard shoot right back up.

Keeping this in mind, approach her by asking about what she is drinking.

This is a start that is simple enough and appropriately uses the environment that you are in as a guide to opening a conversation.

Asking her about what she is drinking opens the door to her telling you about her favorite coffee drink.

This puts her in a good state of mind.

This is human.

We tend to feel good when we are thinking about something we love.

When we think about our favorite food, movie, celebrity, song, etc., we are in a positive mindset.

We feel good.

The same applies to her favorite coffee drink.

As she is telling you about her coffee drink, she is loosening up to you mentally and physically.

This is where you introduce yourself to her by giving her your name and asking for hers.

From here, ask her about what she is working on or what she is reading.

Relate to what she says by giving her a short personal anecdote of your own.

For instance, she tells you that she is working on a paper for school or a project for work.

Ask her about it and as she gets into detail talking about it, relate to her with a short personal anecdote of your own.

This is when you tell her about a paper or work project that you worked on in the past that correlates with hers.

This is how you relate to her, but be sure to keep the focus on her and not on you.

Keep asking her follow-up questions to what she tells you.

This lets her know that you are paying attention to what she is saying.

People love to talk about themselves.

Girls love to talk about themselves.

Keep the limelight on her and let her do most of the talking.

However, do not overstay your welcome.

Respect her time.

This means that you should be thinking about wrapping up the conversation in a few minutes.

Your conversation with her shouldn’t last longer than 10 minutes.

This way, you don’t risk irritating her by staying for too long.

If the conversation goes on for longer than it should, her body language will become uneasy, causing her to shift about and avert eye contact.

You don’t want it to get to this point.

Rather, end the conversation within 10 minutes.

Tell her that you don’t want to take up too much more of her time and whether she would like to continue the conversation over lunch on Thursday.

Don’t worry.

Even if she isn’t available for lunch on Thursday, she will give you a different day that she is available, if she is interested in you.

This is where you ask for her phone number, bid her a good day, and leave her be.