Your parents are worried that dating a man with kids is too complicated of a situation.

A man that has kids has to contend with the mother of his kids.

This creates a complication that has a potential to negatively influence the relationship you have with him.

The mother of his kids has a potential to create stress in a relationship when she persistently complains to him about your negative influence on her kids.

This is especially true when she still has feelings for her ex, who so happens to be your boyfriend.

She won’t take too kindly to you being in his life and that of the kids she had with him.

It ruins her chances of getting back together with him.

If he were to see you as a good surrogate mother or stepmom to her kids, she becomes less useful to him, which further ruins the prospects of getting back together with him.

By complaining to him about a supposed negative influence you are having on the kids, she uses the kids as a wedge between you and him.

It creates friction.

A friction that causes a breakup between you and him in the foreseeable future, opening a path for her to reconcile with him.

Your parents are terrified of all the drama that comes with dating a man with kids.

They don’t want you to get into a whole bunch of drama with this man.

In their minds, it’s so much easier to date a man without kids.

Moreover, your parents want you to have kids of your own some day without the added burden of being a surrogate mother to kids that aren’t biologically yours.

Yes, to an extent, this is selfish on their part too.

They don’t want to have to deal with a blended family, when all they want is to spoil their own biological grandkids.

If you are a stepmom to additional kids, they are compelled to do for them as they do for their biological grandkids, and that is much to contend with.

Having no step grandkids to worry about makes their lives less complicated and they don’t have to feel guilty about showing more love for a biological child.

Besides this, your parents don’t approve of you dating a man with kids on account of how hard they know it is to raise kids.

At this stage in your life, they don’t believe that you are prepared for what it takes to raise multiple kids.

They know how difficult it is, given that they raised you and your siblings.

At this phase in your life, they want you to keep growing as a person without having the extra burden of having to contend with the kids of a man you are dating.

This is far too much of an unwarranted burden for you.

Right now, they are fully aware that you are emotionally invested in this man, and that this is blinding you to the reality and hardship that accompanies dating a man with kids.

Getting romantically involved with a man with kids could derail all of the future goals they know that you have planned in your education, career, etc.

There is too much at stake.

As your parents, they believe it their duty to save you from yourself by dissuading you from dating him.