You are not wrong for feeling insecure that your boyfriend still has his ex’s stuff.

This is stuff that is easy to get rid of.

Items such as her clothing, shoes, jewelry, handbags, makeup, hair clips, ointments, etc.

He is fully aware of your discomfort about these items and keeps telling you that he is getting rid of them.

Nevertheless, whenever you are at his place, you still see his ex’s stuff all about.

Every time you see her stuff, you feel that much more insecure.

The feeling of insecurity persists within you, even when you aren’t at his place.

Memories of what you last saw at his place overwhelms your thoughts.

There is nothing that kills a mood more than opening a medicine cabinet and seeing her skincare cream sitting there.

There have been so many moments like this, where you so happen to see or come across stuff that belonged to his ex.

The insecurity that you are feeling about this is warranted.

Sadly, your boyfriend’s behavior is demonstrative of someone who wants to hold on to his ex’s stuff.

There is no reason for him to keep those items around.

He doesn’t need them.

It’s not like he wears her shoes and clothing when he goes out every day.

They sit in his place and take up space.

This means that he misses her.

In keeping her stuff around the house, not only is he reminded of her, but it gives him a degree of hope that she comes back.

He won’t admit this to himself.

He wants to believe that he has moved on from her, and this is exactly what he will tell you if you were to ask him whether he is over her.

What he is doing is eating his cake and having it too.

Selfishly, he wants to have you as his security blanket, so that he has someone in his life.

Notwithstanding, in the back of his mind, he wonders whether she is coming back.

He was with her for a while and shared many happy memories with her.

If there is a significant amount of her stuff at his place, it means that she spent a lot of time with him at his place, practically living with him so to speak.

This leads to a degree of codependency.

She was with him through several ups and downs in his life.

The good and the bad times.

Whenever he sees her stuff, he has memories about his time with her.

Being that you are still relatively new in his life, he isn’t sure about how it is all going to go with you.

For all he knows, his relationship with you isn’t going to be anything like what he had with her.

Although there is a part of him that wants his relationship with you to work out, it isn’t a sure thing.

He already knows how his relationship with his ex played out.

It lasted a good long while and she was with him through so many challenges.

With you, there is no telling how everything plays out.

To this end, he keeps her stuff around.

Subconsciously, he is holding on to the security he once had with her.

There is a chance that as he becomes more secure in his relationship with you, he won’t feel the need to keep her stuff around any longer.

That said, it puts you in a risky and unenviable position, where your boyfriend isn’t fully emotionally available to you, as you invest time and emotion in him.