As long as a guy has a good first date with a girl, he asks for a second date within a week of the first.
When it is a phenomenal date, he asks for a second date by the end of the first one, or within a day or two of it.
This is a guy who is overcome with excitement for the girl.
If you have been waiting for more than a day or two, he didn’t have a phenomenal first date with you.
It doesn’t mean that he won’t ask you out on a second date, it’s more so that he isn’t feeling an immediate urgency to do so.
A guy that is really impressed by a girl on a first date feels an urgency to ask her out on a second date rather quickly.
Given her charm and wit, he is under the impression that she has a bevy of suitors chasing after her, asking her out on dates.
With this belief, he desperately wants to stay on her radar, so as to keep her from forgetting about him.
In essence, he wants her to prioritize him.
That is what inspires him to ask the girl out soon after a first date, whether it be at the end of the date itself, or within a day or two of it.
When a guy goes beyond a day or two without asking a girl out on a second date, he wasn’t blown away by the first date.
Again, this doesn’t mean that he won’t ask you out on a second date.
It’s more so a barometer of how excited he is about you.
At this juncture, he isn’t intensely excited, but this doesn’t mean that his excitement won’t grow with consequent dates.
This isn’t unusual.
Sometimes, it takes a few dates for two people to build up excitement for each other and develop romantic chemistry.
For others, it happens sooner.
These are the ones who really connect on the first date, which leads to the guy asking her out on a second date at the end of that date, or within a day or two of it.
In your case, if he has gone beyond a day or two of the date without asking you out on a second date, you are in the category where more dates are needed to build up excitement and romantic chemistry.
Keeping that in mind, don’t panic.
As long as you had a good first date with him, there are good odds that he asks you out on a second date.
It’s just that he isn’t in as much of a hurry to do it, given that the first date didn’t set him ablaze with excitement.
Remember, excitement can build over consequent dates.
What you don’t want to do right now is panic.
Panic influences behavior that isn’t always beneficial.
This is where you get ahead of him by initiating a message to him, taking the onus away from him as the pursuer.
A guy is energized when he is the one pursuing the girl.
If you take some of that agency away from him by becoming the one who initiates conversation this early in courtship, you take away his motivation to pursue you.
Rather than dwelling on why he hasn’t asked you out on a second date yet, and risking taking action that exacerbates everything, stop thinking about it.
Indulge in your interests and hobbies.
Hang out with friends.
Go out on dates with other men who are asking you out.
This keeps you from being in your head too much, wondering why he hasn’t asked you out on a second date.
Normally, a guy who had a good first date with a girl doesn’t take longer than a week to ask her out on a second date.
Give it at least this much time before panicking.