A mommy’s boy has a codependent emotional attachment to his mother, making them a formidable unit.

She sheltered him as a child, preferring to have him hang out with her than in the company of his peers.

This was selfish.

He didn’t have all that many friends growing up because his mommy wanted to protect him from the big bad world, and by so doing, keep her son’s love and attention all to herself.

This is usually how a mommy’s boy is cultivated and raised.

By the time he is an adult, his mommy’s influence over him is profound.

You have witnessed this already.

He has cut dates short with you to go to her and assist her with a supposed emergency.

He has ignored you and talked to her on his phone for hours on end while you were sitting in the same room with him.

He has taken her advice over yours multiple times on everything from what furniture to buy to what color to paint his walls.

As much as you like him, his mommy constantly gets in the way.

There have been a few moments where you have subtly addressed your reservations about her, but he brushed off your complaints.

He doesn’t want to hear them.

As far as he is concerned, any critiques of his mommy are off-limits.

She has been there for him his whole life, and has earned the right to influence his lifestyle and decision-making.

This won’t get any better the longer you are with him.

Plenty of women make a miscalculation in thinking that the longer they are with a mommy’s boy as his girlfriend, the greater his love for them grows, making him less inclined to give his mommy such leeway in his life.

Not so.

It’s the opposite.

The longer you date him, the stronger her influence becomes.

This is because she feels threatened that you are negatively impacting her son’s life, as you simultaneously take away his love and attention from her.

As such, she is compelled to interpose herself in your relationship with a furor.

Whatever excuse she requires to get him away from you, she uses, even if she has to feign injury or illness.

If you choose to date a mommy’s boy, but hate the influence his mommy has on his life, you can mitigate it.

This requires that you befriend his mommy.

She has to get to know you, love you, and trust you.

A salient reason why she struggles to let her son live his life without her influence has to do with a fear that no one can be trusted to be with her son.

After all, growing up, she sheltered him from the big bad world.

By befriending her and taking the time to do activities with her that she loves to do such as shopping, gardening, cooking, birdwatching, reading, scrapbooking, volunteering, arts and crafts, sculpturing, etc., she gets to see that you aren’t a bad person who is looking to take advantage of or hurt her son.

Once she gets this notion, she consciously eases off, letting you enjoy prolonged moments with her son without her getting in the way.

If you aren’t prepared to do this kind of work to mitigate her fears, don’t date a mommy’s boy.