It isn’t wrong to want to spend holidays with your boyfriend.

That being said, don’t overstep.

Being that he is your boyfriend, you are emotionally attached to him.

This attachment has its benefits, such as the ability to bond, empathize, love, and uplift.

Nonetheless, it does have its drawbacks that aren’t healthy in a relationship if left unchecked.

These are drawbacks such as clinginess, neediness, poor judgment, and insecurity.

When emotional attachment for a partner goes unchecked, these negative drawbacks surface.

Although there is nothing wrong with wanting to spend holidays with your boyfriend, it isn’t healthy if you don’t expect him to ever spend any holidays without you.

As long as you have an agreement on what holidays you are to spend together, avoid upending this agreement by expecting to spend holidays with him that aren’t included.

It’s tempting to develop this expectation as a relationship progresses and deeper bonds are established.

As his girlfriend, there is a natural sense of entitlement that develops over time.

This entitlement is manifested when you overreach.

For example, imagine that there are upcoming holidays.

One that isn’t included in the list of holidays you are to spend together.

Meaning, he isn’t going to be spending these upcoming holidays with you.

You get upset and complain about the fact that he is going off on these upcoming holidays without you.

Sadly, you guilt-trip him for not wanting to take you along on the upcoming holidays, making it out as though he is hiding you from whoever it is he is spending the holidays with.

You even go as far as infer that he is taking another girl with him to celebrate the upcoming holidays.

In one fell swoop, the entitlement you feel as his girlfriend has compelled you to renege on the prior agreement you had with your boyfriend in reference to which holidays you are to spend together.

And your unchecked emotional attachment to him has brought out the worst tenets of said attachment, in clinginess, neediness, poor judgment, and insecurity.

This is a lot to take all in one go, but your boyfriend is now faced with it.

He takes offense that you are suggesting that he is hiding you from those he loves and reminds you that he just spent Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s with you and people that he loves, in that order.

Now that he is looking to spend Independence Day holidays with a few friends and family, you are making him out to be a villain.

Without keeping the entitlement and emotional attachment in check, you are bound to have future fights with him in respect to these holidays in which you won’t be present.

The arguments become so tedious, they lead to a breakup.

Is this what you want?

Remember, you already have an agreement on which holidays you are spending together.

Whatever holidays that aren’t in the list, such as Independence Day, as used in this example, are off bounds.

Unless he expressly asks you to come with him on a future holiday that isn’t included in those you are supposed to spend together, do not overstep.