It isn’t wise to reach out to a guy who ghosted you.

He ghosted you for a reason.

It’s clear that he doesn’t like you as much as you like him.

He doesn’t respect you either.

By ghosting you, he demonstrated that lack of respect.

In his mind, you weren’t worth receiving an explanation or a heads up.

Initially, his disappearance had you wondering about what had happened.

Naturally, the first instinct was anxiety about his well-being.

You were sincerely worried that something bad had befallen him.

This was how much you cared.

Only to later find out that he was alive and well.

You saw him active on social media, looking healthier than ever.

That was when you realized that he was very much alive, but had chosen to ghost you.

This was perplexing, given how much you thought you were getting along with each other.

The conversations you had with each other were insightful and intriguing.

There was much that you shared in common with each other.

Common interests and ideologies, and a common background.

You were finally connecting with a guy that was on the same wavelength as you.

That was why you were emotionally impacted by his ghosting act, and taken by surprise.

When you established that he was still alive and well, you were left wondering about what had gone wrong.

You thought back to the conversations you had with him and the activities you participated in together, and found reasons to make yourself believe that the ghosting had to do with something you said or did.

This is where you assume responsibility for why he ghosted you, even though you didn’t do anything wrong.

Since he ghosted you, you have struggled to let it go, stuck on how well you got along with him.

You want to believe that in reaching out to him, you get to clear up anything you did wrong and make good.

The idea being to get him to like you again.

You miss him, and haven’t connected to anyone romantically since he ghosted you.

Every time a new guy shows an interest in you and it doesn’t work out, it makes you think about the guy that ghosted you that much more.

You are comparing the new guys who have wooed you and failed, to the guy that ghosted you.

Sadly, you aren’t giving these new guys a fair chance.

That is the reason why you haven’t connected with any guy since you were ghosted.

You compare any guy that has an interest in you and woos you, to the guy that ghosted you.

That is a losing game for any of these guys.

Being that you haven’t moved on from this guy, there is an emotional block in your mind.

This keeps any guy from getting through.

The truth is, there is a part of you that has been aspiring for him to come back into your life.

This has made it that much harder for you to give any new guy a chance, and has added to your lack of emotional availability.

Reaching out to this guy that ghosted you won’t make him magically want to be with you.

He ghosted you due to his belief that you weren’t the one for him.

That doesn’t mean that you did anything wrong.

To him, you weren’t his best match.

That doesn’t mean you wouldn’t be a great match to someone else, as you are.

In reaching out to him, you risk falling further into this emotional chokehold.

In the event he responds, that doesn’t change the fact that he doesn’t take you seriously.

All he will do is soak up your attention for a while, before ghosting you again.

Ghosters are repeat offenders.

It’s time you move on from him.