It isn’t a good idea to date someone who still lives with their ex-partner.

No matter how innocuous the reason for their cohabitation, it is far too risky.

These are two people who have had intimate feelings for each other in the past.

As long as they are living under the same roof, there is too great of a risk that those feelings resurface.

It can happen at a time they least suspect it.

All it takes is a tragic event such as a death of a mutual friend, family member, pet, etc., and those emotions for each other resurface while they are in the process of comforting each other.

Before they know it, they are kissing, ripping each other’s clothes off, and heading for the bedroom.

A bedroom they are intimately familiar with from the days they were in a romantic relationship.

All it takes is for this guy to have a bad fight with you, return home, and find a kind and listening ear in his ex-partner.

Next thing he knows, there is kissing, clothes are being ripped off, and the bedroom is calling their names.

Emotions are powerful.

Ex-partners regularly make the miscalculation of thinking that they are free and clear of said emotions when they break up, but they risk reigniting them when they choose to keep living with each other.

Imagine that you have spent months talking to this guy, getting wooed by him, and consequently falling for him.

You are elated that you have finally met the right guy for you.

Out of nowhere, he tells you that feelings for his ex-partner have resurfaced.

He wasn’t expecting it.

He was living with her for the financial and logistical benefits and thought that they were completely over each other.

All of a sudden, after coming back home from a birthday party of a mutual friend and consuming quite a bit of alcohol at the event, they were suddenly making out as they watched their favorite TV show to close out the night.

The same TV show that they loved as a couple.

He never dreamt that their mouths would suddenly be hungrily diving for a kiss, as their inebriated minds slowly recovered from all the alcohol consumption enjoyed at the birthday party of their mutual friend.

The crazy thing is, he isn’t lying.

Up until that birthday party, there were no obvious signs that they were still into each other.

They barely see each other on their work days.

They do their laundry on different days.

They cook their meals separately.

They never have to confer about bills because each person has their own allotted bills for the home.

It truly all seemed like they had lost feelings for each other and were merely living together for the financial and logistical benefits.

Then the birthday party happened and the bedroom they once shared as a couple didn’t have a quiet moment throughout the rest of that night.

You see, it can creep up on them without there been any signs leading up to it.

That is why it is far too perilous to date someone that still lives with their ex-partner.

The environment he is in is far too volatile.

There are too many memories.

The risk that the feelings he thought were gone resurface at an unexpected moment is too great.

Meanwhile, you have spent months being courted by this guy and you are now left with nothing but heartache at this terrible news.

Taking a risk of dating someone that still lives with their ex-partner isn’t worth it.