This isn’t the first time your girlfriend has been clingy with a boyfriend.

She was clingy with her previous boyfriends.

She showed signs of clinginess in the early stages of your relationship with her, but you chose to ignore those signs.

Now, she has been your girlfriend for a while, and the clinginess is getting to you.

What did you think would happen?

Clinginess doesn’t get any better over time.

If anything, it gets worse.

The longer she is in a relationship with you, the deeper her emotional dependency becomes.

With you as a staple in her life, you become the source of all of her emotional needs.

She ditches her friends, and minimizes contact with her family because you are giving her what she requires emotionally.

She expects you to spend all of your time with her, and put her above your friends and family.

After all, she has done the same for you.

She has put all of her energy and time on you, abandoning her hobbies, friends, and family for you, expecting the same in return.

You saw the early signs of her clingy behavior when you were courting her, and still chose to make her your girlfriend.

Clinginess only gets more intense the longer a clingy girlfriend is with you.

She expects you to reply to her incessant text messages and phone calls immediately.

No, she doesn’t care that you are at work or busy.

She has made you a priority in her life and expects the same of you.

When you don’t immediately reply to her text messages and phone calls, it’s World War 3 with her.

She is scolding you, making you out to be the worst boyfriend and that you don’t care about her.

This is all emotional manipulation.

She wants you to feel guilty so that the next time she texts or calls you, you are immediately replying.

This is how she keeps you on your toes, with her on your mind constantly, as you anticipate a text or phone call from her at any moment.

This is emotionally reassuring to her.

It lets her know that in moments where you are preoccupied, whether it be at work or with friends, you are perpetually on alert, knowing she could text or call you at any moment.

This is control.

A clingy girlfriend’s ultimate goal is to have full control over your thoughts, emotions, and behavior.

She wants to be at the center of everything.

This isn’t sustainable for you.

The longer she is your girlfriend, the worse this gets.

Being in love with her isn’t a remedy.

She has to be self-motivated to work on her abandonment issues, personal insecurities, and internal fears, in order to fix her clingy behavior.

This takes courage and a realization that she has a legitimate mental sickness.

The likelihood she comes to this conclusion is slim.

Unfortunately, throughout her life, she has used romantic relationships as her form of therapy to overcome her fear of abandonment, as opposed to taking time out from dating to work on these personal insecurities.

The truth is, confronting her about her clinginess, and listening to her tell you that she will change, isn’t a remedy either.

A desperate woman who doesn’t want to lose a boyfriend she is wholly emotionally dependent on, will say anything to get him to keep her as his girlfriend.

Sadly, once a few weeks go by, the dam breaks, and she is back to being clingy again.

Clinginess is a deep-rooted psychological issue.

There is no patching it up with band-aids.

For it to be remedied, she has to take time off from dating for an extended period of time to work on herself.