Your gamer boyfriend has taken his relationship with you for granted.

He has become too comfortable in the relationship.

This has resulted in him not feeling the need to take you out on dates, or to do outside activities, like he once did when he was courting you.

He knows that you have fallen for him emotionally, and this has lifted the pressure from his shoulders to impress you.

When he was courting you, he was presenting a false persona.

This was when he was taking you out on dates regularly and giving you a substantial amount of his time and attention.

He knew that he had to impress you long enough to get you to fall for him.

Once you fell for him, he realized that he no longer had to keep up the act.

He could finally stop pretending and be his true self.

His true self is that of an obsessive gamer.

He has been obsessed with gaming for a while, long before he met you.

Nonetheless, he knew that letting you see that side of him too early was too much of a risk.

A risk that was likely to turn you off.

He did everything in his power to stave off talking about video games as he courted you.

Now, it has been a while since you have been in a committed relationship with him, and he has become emboldened.

He is shamelessly spending all of his free time playing video games at his house.

You have endeavored to get him to take you out on dates, or to do outside activities with you, but he gives excuses as to why he can’t, each and every time.

Whenever you have talked to him about his neglect, he doesn’t seem to care.

All of this has driven you crazy and you are completely at a loss on what to do.

The reality is, this is who he is.

He is a gamer who prefers spending his free time playing video games, and has been like this long before he met you.

He never leaves the house for a reason.

Getting lost in the world of video games is how he escapes the real world.

In this video game world, he has no responsibilities.

This is where he wants to be, and for him to change this mindset, there has to be stakes.

As long as you keep giving him the privileges that come with a girlfriend such as sex, assisting him with domestic chores, keeping him company at his house, running errands for him, picking him up or giving him rides, etc., he won’t feel any pressure to prioritize taking you out.

The next time he expects you to have sex with him, make it clear that you want him to take you out on a date, or to do an outside activity, first.

The same applies to whenever he asks for any variety of privileges that a girlfriend bestows.

There has to be an equal give and take.

Without leaving the house and taking you out on a date, or to do an outside activity, he hasn’t earned and won’t receive these privileges.

This raises the stakes, making him fully aware that he can no longer eat his cake and have it too.