Your boyfriend now knows that you are the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
Unfortunately, you aren’t of the same mind.
You love him, but don’t want to marry him.
Besides minor peccadillos, there is no major reason you can think of that makes you not want to marry him.
He is a great boyfriend that treats you with kindness and is staunchly loyal.
He comes from a good family.
Yet, you don’t want to marry him.
A part of you is tempted to give the relationship extra time to see whether you change your mind about not wanting to marry him in the future.
But right now, you know that you don’t want to marry him.
Your boyfriend got into a long-term relationship with you, under the impression that marriage was an outcome that you were mutually open to.
Now that he has been dating you for a while, he knows that you are the woman he wants to marry and spend the rest of his life with.
Sadly, you aren’t on the same page.
Although you are now tempted to stick it out to see whether you develop a desire to marry him in the future, don’t be so fast to make this decision.
As long as you have been in a relationship with him for two years or more, you have been exposed to more than enough information to ascertain whether he is a suitable candidate for marriage.
Staying with him for an extra six months, year, two years, etc., is of no consequence.
The average relationship lasts about two years before a proposal of marriage is made and an engagement occurs.
After dating for two years or more, you have seen the most critical elements of your boyfriend’s character and life.
The mystery is settled.
At this stage, if you still don’t want to marry him, he isn’t the right candidate for marriage.
It’s tempting to stay in a relationship longer, especially when you have invested a substantial amount of time into it, and don’t want to lose the security that comes with it.
To keep the relationship alive, under the guise of wanting to see whether you end up changing your mind about wanting to marry him, is selfish.
Your mind won’t change in six months or more.
As long as you have been in this relationship for two years or more, the likelihood you change your mind about marrying him is next to nil.
Yes, in ending the relationship, you lose the convenience of being in a steady relationship, but it is the right thing to do.
In letting him go, you avoid wasting his time and yours.
Conversely, if your relationship hasn’t lasted at least two years, you have a decision to make.
The fact that you can’t think of any major reason why you don’t want to marry him, may mean you just need a little extra time to come to terms with the idea of marrying him.
Given how huge of a commitment marriage is, this caution isn’t without merit.
Should you choose to stay on for a full two years, tell him your intentions, but do not make any promises.
There are no guarantees that in two years, you are changing your mind about marrying him.
By making this crystal clear, and not making any false promises, you give him the latitude to make an informed decision on whether he wants to wait it out.