It isn’t acceptable to go to a club with your friends when you’re in a relationship, if your boyfriend has expressed resentment.
Your boyfriend knows that you are about to get approached by many men in a club, most of whom are inebriated.
Although you don’t believe that this is anything to worry about, he is worried about it.
You already know that you have no intention of entertaining these men.
All you want to do is have fun with your friends and dance at the club.
This is all well and good from your perspective, but your boyfriend has a totally different perspective.
He is a man.
He knows that the men who see you in the club are ready to seduce you.
Yes, you are turning them down left and right, but this doesn’t change the fact that you have put yourself in a place that is rife with temptation.
Should you have a little bit too much to drink, you are less likely to turn down a man who asks you to dance.
Alcohol lowers inhibitions.
Next thing you know, he is rubbing against you on the dance floor.
Sure, you push him off, but the damage has already been done.
People nearby have seen you two on the dance floor, and they are thinking that you two were a bit too touchy-feely with each other.
Even if you don’t accept a dance from any guy at the club, you are dancing on the dance floor with your friends.
This means that men are inevitably approaching the group you are with, dancing beside them, with or without their permission.
Once again, this isn’t a good look, and people in the club are watching, including those in your friend group.
The news gets back to your boyfriend.
Even though you did absolutely nothing to encourage these men to keep dancing in proximity with your group of friends, your boyfriend doesn’t see it like that.
He wasn’t at the club.
All he has heard has been secondhand accounts from people who saw you at the club, talking to one guy and dancing with another.
It is not a good look and your boyfriend isn’t happy.
Yes, you are upset that your boyfriend is listening to these secondhand accounts and that he isn’t trusting you when you tell him that nothing happened.
It’s true that your boyfriend should trust you when you tell him that you did nothing with these men.
But at the same time, put yourself in your boyfriend’s shoes for a moment.
You are at a club with a bunch of your friends.
There is loud music and alcohol.
Your friends are having a good time, drinking and dancing.
There are guys everywhere staring at your group like lions staring at wildebeests.
All of you are prey, as far as they are concerned.
The thought that any of these guys got close enough to rub against you on the dance floor is mortifying, given that he knows what they are thinking.
He is a guy.
When he was single, he knew why he went to the club.
He wanted to find a woman and get laid.
This is what he is thinking when he hears secondhand accounts of what happened at the club.
It isn’t that he doesn’t trust you.
It’s more so that he doesn’t trust the elements and the environment.
Why put unnecessary strain on your relationship by going to a club when he has expressed a resentment towards it?
Why cause a fight?
No matter how innocent you are in everything you do in a club, witnesses see it differently.
It isn’t worth the hassle it causes to a relationship.