When she is with you, there is contentment.

You know that she is there, and that is enough to satisfy you.

There is no sense of urgency to fix any relationship issues that you are having with each other.

You make yourself believe that she isn’t going anywhere.

After all, she keeps complaining, but still sticks around, telling you that she loves you and wanting to hear you tell her that you love her back as much as she loves you.

This gives you a false sense of security, as you think that she will love you forever no matter what.

You push it too, by not being as loving as you once were with her, having taken her for granted.

She tells you that she wants more romance in the relationship and you ignore it, believing that she already has you as a boyfriend, and that is enough.

She tells you that she wants to be shown more affection when you are together, but you ignore this too.

After all, she continues to sleep with you.

She tells you that she wants you to give her a good idea of where the relationship is headed.

You don’t bother giving her a well-thought-out answer, giving her the impression that you haven’t thought about the future of the relationship.

She isn’t wrong either.

You haven’t put much thought into the future of the relationship, preferring instead to skirt any long-term plans for the relationship.

You have become far too complacent in the relationship.

A woman feels loved when her boyfriend is continuously romancing her and has solid plans for the future of their relationship.

The absence of this leads to weariness, as she interprets your inaction as a sign that you aren’t taking the relationship seriously.

Slowly, the love that she has for you crumbles.

Meanwhile, you think that everything is fine with the relationship.

Irrespective of the fact that she has made complaints, she has persisted in showing love.

This gave you a false sense of security, giving you the impression that her complaints have been facetious, and nothing all that important.

Weeks go by and you realize that she hasn’t made a single complaint.

This gives you yet another false sense of security, thinking that she no longer has these complaints.

What you have failed to notice is that she hasn’t been telling you that she loves you as much either.

She isn’t all that enthused about having sex with you, and when it happens, she doesn’t do all that much.

You brush all of this off, chocking it up to her being temperamental.

Then, the inevitable happens when she leaves you.

It feels like it is out of nowhere because she hasn’t been complaining for the last few weeks.

The truth is, it isn’t out of nowhere.

She wasn’t complaining for the last few weeks because she had given up on you fixing the issues and was already planning to leave.

Now that she is gone, you miss her.

You took her for granted and want her attention back.

Overwhelmed with loss, you make yourself believe that you are ready to address all of her complaints if you succeed in getting her back.

Innately, you know that she has given you more love as her boyfriend than any girl you have dated in the past.

You want her back more than ever.

This is when you realize how much you love her.

In desperation, you chase her all over again.

Upon winning her back, you address her complaints for a little while, giving her the resolutions she wants.

When some time has passed and you get comfortable, you fall back on your old habits.

She starts complaining all over again, and you ignore her.

She inevitably leaves you, and you are chasing after her all over again.