He When he had an opportunity to ask you out, he didn’t.
There wasn’t a sense of urgency in him.
He was thinking about other women.
In his mind, you were on the side, at his convenience indefinitely.
Yes, guys are this egotistical.
He wasn’t thinking about the likelihood of you moving on one day with another man.
He thought you a perennial fixture at his disposal.
That mindset changed when he realized that you got into a relationship with another man.
All of a sudden, the outlet he believed was everlastingly available to him, was shut.
He didn’t have you anymore as someone in his back burner, that he could go to for an ego boost whenever he needed.
You were now taken from him by this new man.
That triggered his territorial and competitive instinct.
He doesn’t want this man to take away the attention he has gotten so used to getting from you.
As far as he is concerned, he is better than this man that you have gotten into a relationship with, and he wants you to see that.
By trying harder to pursue you, he wants to stay on your radar so that you eventually question why you are with this man.
This has nothing to do with him having changed his mind about you and wanting date you.
This is more of an ego thing.
On the surface, it looks like he is trying harder to pursue you with an intent to date you.
That isn’t actually the reason why he is pursuing you with such ferocity.
He wants to win you back from this man, and in doing so, get an ego boost of a lifetime.
To say that he got to change your mind and win you back, is what keeps him up at night.
The emotional rush that he knows would come with accomplishing this goal is so enticing.
To have the pleasure of winning you back, by whisking you away from this man, is a constant thought that preoccupies his mind as he goes about his day.
This is his motivation.
He wants to go to bed at night with the pleasure of having won you back from this man.
Should he achieve this goal, he has no intention of getting into a relationship with you.
Sadly, that isn’t his intent in trying harder to pursue you.
It looks like it on the surface, but it isn’t.
If he sincerely wanted to be with you, he would have done it before you got into a relationship with this man.
He had more than enough time to do this.
You had given him enough signals of interest.
Yet, he didn’t.
He prioritized pursuing other women over you.
He went after them, while keeping you as someone on his back burner.
His “get out of jail free card” so to speak.
Whenever he had a desire for an ego boost, you were a phone call or text away.
Once you got into a relationship with this man, his ego security blanket was shattered.
He wants that blanket back.