There have been several moments when you have thought about a life with her as her boyfriend.

You have fantasized about this from time to time and felt a surge of excitement from it.

Sadly, you never made a decisive move on her.

You never asked her out on a date.

There were moments that you considered doing so, but never ended up doing it.

She sent what appeared to be interest signals at you, but never made a move to ask you out either.

Eventually, it became a status quo.

There were weeks you would look at each other frequently, and it all felt as though the romantic tension was coming to a head and someone was about to make a move.

These were followed by weeks of not much happening.

The occasional eye contact and acknowledgment, but not much else.

It is during one of these uneventful stretches that you found out that she has a boyfriend.

This took you by surprise.

At first, you didn’t want to think of it as a big deal.

Even so, as the days and weeks went by, it bothered you that much more.

Seeing her looking so happy with her new boyfriend made it all the worse.

It made you realize how badly you wanted to be the one standing next to her, or walking with her hand in hand.

You finally had to accept the truth of what you were feeling.

You can’t stand that she is with someone.

There isn’t a day that goes by that you don’t think about it.

There isn’t a day that goes by that you aren’t irked about her being with someone, and yes, regretful that you never made a move on her.

The truth is, you committed a considerable error in not making a move on her while she was single.

Women are frequently approached and sought after by men.

They field unceasing offers from guys that are interested in them.

You took far too long playing a game of wait and see with her.

Those weeks where the eye contact and romantic gestures were strong, you needed to make a move on her.

You didn’t.

You kept waiting.

But waiting for what?

For her to make a move on you?

Women rarely make the first move on men.

When you don’t make a decisive move on a girl, you are likely losing her.

She isn’t sending signals of romantic interest at you for the sake of it.

She does it, knowing that men require signs of romantic interest from a girl to be inspired to approach said girl.

That is what she was doing with you.

In lieu of taking these romantic cues as a sign that she wanted you to approach her and ask her out, you didn’t make a move on her.

Unlike you, the guy she is with saw the romantic signs she was sending towards him, and made his move.

He approached her and asked her out.

Now, he is her boyfriend.

Let this be a life lesson to you.

Do not wait on a girl to make a move on you.

When a girl is showing signs of romantic interest in you, make a move on her and ask her out.