Clearly, your boyfriend has dropped the ball.

He isn’t doing what he once did, as someone who used to take you out on dates, but no longer does.

You practically have to beg him to get him to take you out, but to no avail.

Sadly, he is perfectly content staying at home and playing video games or doing nothing.

As he has behaved like this, you have found yourself systematically losing attraction for him.

Whenever you are intimate with him, all you are thinking about is going to sleep.

Talking to him is becoming more and more of a bore, considering that there isn’t all that much to talk about.

Hearing him talk about how much he hates his boss, landlord, roommate, and his inability to get past the sixth level in the newest video game he recently purchased, gets really old.

There was a time you looked forward to his good morning and good night texts, but they are no longer as forthcoming as they were in the early months of the relationship.

To be quite honest, you aren’t all that concerned that he isn’t sending you these texts as much as he once did.

Not anymore.

In fact, he isn’t in your thoughts as often as he once was.

In the early months of the relationship, there wasn’t a day you didn’t wake up without thinking about him and wondered whether he was thinking about you.

There was a giddiness to your spirit.

As you brushed your teeth, you were humming a tune, joyous, as you thought about seeing him later that day.

There was so much joy and excitement within you.

Now, you don’t remember the last time you woke up in the morning humming.

All you are concerned about is the full roster of activities that you have planned for the day.

Little of which concerns him.

Not until the next time you see him.

You have gone from seeing him almost every day, in the heyday of your relationship with him, to seeing him but once or twice a week.

The truth is, there is little joy in you anymore.

There is a part of you that continues to care for him, but the excitement for him is no longer anywhere near the level it once was.

Weirdly enough, he hasn’t done anything egregiously bad.

He doesn’t insult you, cheat on you, or steal from you.

It would be so much easier if he did do something egregiously bad.

As awful as that sounds, it would make it easier for you to figure out what to do about him.

Nonetheless, that isn’t happening and you are stuck on what to do.

Although you are not sure whether to break up with your boyfriend, the truth is there is no longer a spark in your relationship with him.

Once a spark is lost in a relationship, it is nigh impossible to bring it back when either party has become accustomed to the monotony of their relationship.

Do a mental exercise for a moment.

Take a moment to visualize yourself ten years from now.

Do you see your boyfriend by your side?

If you don’t, it’s time to break up with him.