In the past, when you have liked someone, you felt your heart beat for them.

There was a palpable excitement that you felt.

Since that feeling, you have surmised that this is how you should feel whenever you like someone.

That feeling gives you an emotional high, and you want to experience it whenever you like someone new.

This being said, human beings have an internal safeguard that protects them when it comes to past hurt in love and romance.

Even though you have felt your heart beating for a guy in the past, it wasn’t all that rosy by the end of your love affair with him.

There is a reason why that romance ended.

Although you felt your heart beating for him in the early weeks or months, the romance eventually ended unceremoniously.

At first, it was joyful.

There was so much promise.

You were excited about having your own romance story like what you had read in the romance novels and watched in romance movies.

In the beginning, he said all the right words and elicited a feeling of reassurance and safety in you.

It was a whirlwind of a romance in the early weeks and months, but that changed.

As the romance wound down, your heart wasn’t beating as fast as it had been in the past.

There was a reality that overcame you.

This wasn’t a romance like you had read about in romance novels and watched in romance movies.

He wasn’t the flawless partner that you dreamed him to be.

There were several moments in his relationship with you where he wasn’t as kind or as emotionally connected to you as he was in the early weeks and months.

By the time the romance or relationship was done, you were no longer feeling your heart beating for him anymore.

Once you have gone through this experience, it’s only natural that your mind and body adapt.

They become more cautious with love and romance.

Your mind and body wants to protect you from getting hurt or being disappointed in the future.

As a result, you don’t feel your heart beating for the next guy you like.

It doesn’t mean that there isn’t romantic potential.

It is happening because your mind and body wants to protect you.

These are your instincts keeping you safe from getting hurt or being disappointed with any new guy you meet.

Unlike the last guy you liked who made your heartbeat accelerate, your instincts want you to be more cautious and to slow down.

The last romance didn’t have the happiest of endings, and your instincts are keeping you from getting carried away too soon with a new guy that you have developed a liking to.

This is how your internal instincts, which are inclined to defend you from emotional harm, protects you.

It’s not that you don’t like this guy enough, it is more so that your instincts are keeping you from getting overly excited about this guy.

As you get to know this guy over time, your internal instincts gradually lower your guard.

It’s critical you let this happen gradually.

Let go of your desire to feel your heart beating for a guy that you like, as it has happened in the past, and you have read about in romance novels, or watched in romance movies.

A steady approach to falling in love is far better than falling for a guy early, and all the heart beats that accompany it.

Remember what happened the last time you felt your heart beating for a guy you liked.

Fast love equates to a fast and unceremonious ending to a relationship.