There is nothing stupid about wanting to be romanced by your boyfriend.

You have a desire for dates, flowers, love letters, little thoughtful gifts, picnics, massages, etc.

Although your boyfriend has been great in a variety of areas, he hasn’t been in regards to romance.

The truth is, you know that romancing a woman isn’t his style.

He has never been the sensitive type, and you thought that you were fine with that.

Throughout your relationship with him, including when you were being courted, you kept a focus on how safe, protected, and provided for, he made you feel.

You dwelled on his ability to protect, provide, and solve problems.

In keeping this mindset, you didn’t want to get lost in the shortage of romantic gestures.

As far as you were concerned, these were small details that weren’t as important as what he provided in other areas.

You were looking at the bigger picture and towards your future.

You thought it more prudent to ignore the fact that he didn’t take you out on that many dates, by fixating on how much of a protector he was.

You chose to ignore the fact that he never brought you breakfast in bed, by fixating on how much of a provider he was.

You chose to ignore the small details by looking at the bigger picture.

There was a time those small romantic gestures meant more to you.

This was a time that you were more of a romantic, wanting any guy that dated you to pay attention to the small details.

You wanted him to organize a picnic, make you a bath, give you a spa treatment, leave sticky love notes on mirrors, hold and hug you, etc.

That changed when those romantic relationships didn’t work out over time.

This made you conclude that paying so much attention to small romantic gestures wasn’t all that important in a relationship.

You decided that it was better to focus on the bigger picture.

To you, this meant that a guy’s ability to be a protector, provider, and problem-solver was more important.

Your current boyfriend is the embodiment of these qualities.

You thought this was enough, and for a while it did.

However, you have been yearning for those small romantic gestures again, and have realized that you simply can’t ignore this factor.

The reality is, you are a romantic, no matter how much you have tried to convince yourself that you have changed that mindset.

It isn’t stupid to want to be romanced by your boyfriend.

Nonetheless, the boyfriend you have isn’t the romantic type.

This isn’t who he is.

Now that you realize that you want to be romanced, don’t expect your boyfriend to make this change all of a sudden.

This is akin to him expecting you to become the protector and provider in the relationship all of a sudden.

Rather than expecting him to make this change out of nowhere, break him in slowly.

Ask for a simple romantic gesture to begin with, such as a kiss and a hug in the morning, for example.

In turn, do a gesture for him that he has asked for in return.

This is a value exchange.

By giving him what he wants too, you encourage him to get into a pattern of romancing you, thanks to the reward he anticipates.

Getting him to become more of the romantic type takes time.

Be prepared for this to be a long road.