When you are attracted to a girl, you let your mind run rampant.

You immediately put her on a pedestal.

Without realizing it at the time, you make her out to be perfect.

She has the perfect face, body, and temperament.

You think of her as incapable of having accidents or making mistakes.

A person that everybody loves and gravitates to.

Once you pedestalize her in your mind like this, you are losing yourself in these thoughts and instantly comparing yourself with her.

You don’t believe yourself to be as perfect as she is.

Your face, body, and temperament isn’t as perfect.

There have been several moments in your life that you have had accidents and made silly mistakes.

People don’t gravitate to you as much as people do to her.

All of these comparisons are based on a fantastical story you have instantly created in your mind about this girl.

You have made her out to have all of the strengths that you don’t believe you have, and no weaknesses.

When you do this assessment in your mind, it’s impossible for you to measure up to her.

This is when you get nervous.

You have told yourself that she is so much better than you in every avenue.

The problem with this is that you are making an assumption that has no bearing.

You have made her out to be a perfect human being.

A perfect human being doesn’t exist.

Based on your attraction for her, you have quickly pedestalized her, making yourself nervous and hesitant to talk to her.

How do you calm down quickly?

Stop pedestalizing her.

The moment you realize that your mind is going off on a tangent about how perfect this girl is, rein it in.

Rein it in by bringing your consciousness back to where you are.

Become more aware of yourself and environment so that your mind doesn’t go astray.

Be aware of where you are standing, the air you are breathing, the colors around you, the smell in the air, and the clothes on your back.

This is how you stay present and keep your mind from taking you down a rabbit hole.

Once you become aware of this, remind yourself that she had to wake up this morning like everyone else did.

She had to sleep like everyone else.

This means that she is human.

As she went about preparing for her day, she was breathing oxygen.

Yes, oxygen.

Every human being alive has to breath oxygen.

Yet again, she is human.

Before she left her house, she had breakfast.

Every human being has to eat to stay alive.

She had to eat food before leaving her home.

This makes her human.

Like you.

As she ate breakfast, she got into an argument with a sibling.

Human beings don’t get along and gravitate to each other in every instance.

They have moments where they are at odds with each other and argue.

She is human.

As she walked towards the front door to leave, she knocked down or dropped a few items.

When she got on the asphalt outside, headed to her car, she stumbled a few times.

Human beings knock things over and stumble.

She is human.

When you acknowledge all of this, you have kept yourself from pedestalizing her, by humanizing her.

She is flawed after all.

This calms you down, keeping you from getting nervous at the thought of talking to her.