Not every spoiled brat is unqualified from being a good girlfriend.

The viability of a long-term relationship with a spoiled brat starts with what you are expecting from your girlfriend.

A girl that is a spoiled brat is used to being spoiled by her parents.

She is used to getting what she wants.

Whenever she got pushback from her parents, all she had to do was pout or sulk for a little while, and they would cave, giving her what she wants as a result.

With this upbringing, she is expecting any guy she dates to give her the same treatment.

This is where a conversation about boundaries beforehand is vital.

As a spoiled brat, she isn’t used to rules.

A conversation about boundaries is where you talk about the rules.

You set rules for her and she sets rules for you.

Think about the rules that you want to set for her.

Are there specific expectations you have that are nonnegotiable?

These are expectations that address her bratty side, making it clear that specific types of bratty behavior in the relationship is a violation of the rules.

Know what type of bratty behavior is tolerable to you, and what isn’t.

It isn’t wise to demand an end to all of her bratty behavior.

This is akin to telling someone to remove their biological DNA from their bodies.

They can’t.

She was raised as a spoiled brat and this has significantly influenced her personality.

To have any shot at her being a good partner, she has to be allowed a degree of her bratty side.

Figure out which ones are tolerable to you, and which ones aren’t.

This makes the rules far more realistic and doable.

She isn’t suddenly overwhelmed with the idea that you are asking for the impossible.

She doesn’t feel that you are attempting to make her someone she isn’t.

As long as she knows that you are bringing a lot to the table in regards to the value you bring to the relationship, she is agreeing to the rules.

Remember, when boundaries are being set, the rules go both ways.

She has to have rules for you too.

This is what makes for a heathy relationship.

Once the rules are set and a relationship commences, there are moments where she might break a rule and exhibit bratty behavior that isn’t in the rule book.

When this happens, immediately caution her on it.

Do not let the moment go.

If you let the moment go, she automatically thinks that you are okay with it, and she does it again in time.

Once she does it again, and you let it go yet again, she is emboldened to keep doing it.

Before you know it, she is exhibiting additional bratty behavior that is in violation of the rules.

By this point, the relationship is out of hand and she has developed a sense of entitlement.

The same entitlement she feels with her parents.

This was what we were trying to avoid in setting the rules in the first place.

This is why you mustn’t let it go when a rule is violated.

The moment she does, remind her of the rules, so that she doesn’t develop a mindset that it is okay to do it again.

As long as you are diligent in doing this, you prevent a future where she falls back into a mindset of entitlement.