After 50, you are set in your ways.

There is a manner in which you like to do things.

It’s hard to bring someone new into that.

Although you want to find love, ask yourself whether you are ready for it and in the right frame of mind.

Your life experience has had its ups and downs, with the good and the bad.

As a very independent woman in her 50s, you have lived enough life to know what it is you like and don’t.

This can be a good thing to an extent, but it can also close you off to opportunities in love that are outside what you are used to.

It’s clear that in continuing to stubbornly do what you have always done when seeking out love, you are bound to keep getting the same results.

To find love after 50, you mustn’t be too rigid in sticking with what you believe you deserve.

It’s natural to believe that you deserve nothing but the best, especially after all the years of turmoil.

This is where you run a risk of having too high of an ideal in what you expect a lover to be, and in turn, cast a blind eye to any other man that isn’t in that box.

It is hard to find love after 50 when you are a woman who isn’t malleable.

Being very independent, you are used to getting things done and taking charge.

The idea of letting your guard down to a man isn’t what you are used to.

Nevertheless, this is what a man wants.

He wants to feel as though you trust him enough to be the leader in a relationship.

At this stage in your life, are you capable of letting a man into your life and deferring to his authority?

The thing is, you aren’t open to a man who is at your level either.

Being very independent, you require a man who has the ability to earn your respect.

At your age, those men are mostly taken.

The few that exist won’t stick around for long if they realize that you are too stubborn to let them lead.

You are so used to having things your way, given that you are over 50 and very independent, it’s hard to let a man like this be a leader in your life.

Unfortunately, a man like this won’t keep courting you when he realizes that you won’t trust him enough to let him be the leader in the relationship.

Finding love after 50 requires that you let your guard down and trust a man enough with your well-being.

This is scary, especially at your age and independence, and with all the trials you have had in love throughout your life.

Nevertheless, this is what is required for you to find love with the right man for you.

There is no tricking him either.

He won’t stick around if you defer to his leadership in the beginning, only to challenge it once you get comfortable in the relationship later on.

It is sure to be tempting to fall back into this behavior once you are comfortable in a relationship, but it is to your detriment.

Anything less than consistent behavior in how you defer to him, keeps you from finding and keeping the love you seek.