A man doesn’t traditionally care whether the woman he is with knows how to fight.

He considers himself the protector in the relationship.

This role is a biological imperative within him.

He wants to be the one who fights off anyone that threatens those he loves.

As his woman, one of his most important duties is to protect you.

Envisioning you in a circumstance where you are forced to fight, doesn’t sit well with him.

This means that you are in peril and he has failed in performing his duty in protecting you.

If you have to fight, he is no longer the protector.

He never wants you to be in a circumstance where you have no choice but to fight.

There is nothing wrong with knowing how to fight.

In fact, a man wouldn’t be adverse to his woman taking self-defense classes.

It does make him feel good knowing that she is strong and capable of defending herself.

Nonetheless, the thought that she would one day have to use the lessons she learned in her taekwondo class to defend or protect herself, is terrifying to him.

That means that he wasn’t around to do his duty in protecting her.

He wasn’t around to fulfill his role as her protector.

The idea that you know how to defend yourself, thanks to attending a good amount of self-defense classes, is fine with him.

It is comforting to an extent.

But, he never ever wants you to be in a circumstance where you have to use what you have learned to fight or defend yourself.

As aforementioned, a circumstance like this implies that he wasn’t there to protect you and this is where the fear and disappointment in himself sets in.

A woman that knows how to fight isn’t a quality that guys are clamoring for in someone they date.

That being said, there are circumstances where a woman who knows how to fight if it came down to it is important to guys.

This is when he has a career where he is constantly away.

He has to travel a lot and his physical presence is frequently not around.

In these circumstances, a guy does everything to facilitate the safety of the woman he is in a relationship with.

He sets up a security system in the house, downloads security apps on her smartphone, secures her vehicle with burglar alarms, and gets her a faithful guard dog.

Even though he hopes that all of his security measures are enough, he knows that if all of them fail, her ability to protect herself is her last defense.

This is where he is totally open to her learning how to fight and considers it of great importance.

This works the other way around as well.

When a man is with a woman who travels a lot for work, he wants her to know how to fight.

Being that his physical presence isn’t with her on her travels, he feels better knowing that she has the ability to defend herself should such a moment arrive.