The thought of someone being as obsessed with you as you are with them is enthralling.

It makes you feel so wanted.

You have been in short supply of that in your past relationships.

This feeling has been so deficient in your love life that your body is clamoring for it.

You are teeming with such desire to meet someone that is that obsessed with you, and you him.

You have had your fill of watching romance movies where this obsession between two lovers was a constant theme, making you wish for the same in your own love life.

There are far too many romance novels on your bookshelves that you have consumed with two impassioned lovers who are obsessed with each other.

To rub it in that much harder, you have seen people in your life enjoy these types of relationships.

A few people in your friend circle and family are in these obsessive relationships, and you have had many a moment of jealousy upon watching these individuals, and their inability to keep their hands off of each other.

You want your love life to be like that in a romance movie or novel for once.

To stop observing, and become, is what you dream about each and every day.

It’s not that your expectations are too high, it’s that you are far too focused on what is happening on the surface level of these relationships.

A romance movie or novel isn’t real life.

The few people in your life that seemingly have relationships where they are obsessed with each other aren’t doing this round-the-clock.

You would be shocked to see them at home, going about their chores without this constant obsession to be on top of each other.

Yes, you get to see it in public because they get to choose when they want to show it.

Nonetheless, there lives aren’t a romance movie or novel where the obsession is never-ending.

The truth about relationships where there is an obsession for each other is that they are too dependent on the dopamine rush that is triggered within the two parties.

Dopamine is a hormone and neurotransmitter released in the brain that perpetuates a sensation of pleasure.

It’s a euphoric feeling whenever these two parties are around each other, thanks to the superfluous amounts of dopamine that is released in the hypothalamus of the brain.

This feeling becomes so intoxicating that it blinds them to everything else that is wrong in the relationship.

They become addicted to the high they have whenever they are with each other.

To this end, they rarely discuss issues and differences within the relationship, which causes these issues and differences to get worse the longer they are ignored.

This obsession with each other is temporary.

The honeymoon phase in a relationship lasts for six months to two years.

Once this time elapses, the dopamine has worn off, and the issues and differences that have been getting ignored have grown colossally in size, as a consequence of not being addressed early.

Next thing you know, you go from endless cuddling and sweet kisses, to yelling and snapping at each other.

The idea of being obsessed with someone, and they you, sounds exciting at first.

This is especially the case when you are someone who has never had this experience in your love life.

However, the relationships that last are those where either party enjoys the dopamine high while it lasts, but are prepared for the natural transition into maturation.

It’s akin to transitioning from childhood into adulthood.

There is a maturation required when you transition into becoming an adult.

An adult has distinct responsibilities.

They can’t keep looking at the world through the ingenuous mind of a child.

Once a relationship matures, it has transitioned from the honeymoon phase.

If you and your partner don’t mature with it, the relationship is doomed to fail.