The impetus to overshare happens when you are getting too comfortable too quickly with a man you like.

When you are dating a man you like, and form an emotional connection with him, you can’t help but overshare.

Your thoughts and experiences come to the forefront of your mind and you are severely tempted to reveal them.

There is an aspiration that he is someone you can trust and feel safe with.

Much of the reason why you overshare so quickly with a man you like is based on insecurity.

Those thoughts and experiences are personal details about yourself that is too much information, some of which are irrelevant to him.

Yet, you overshare them with a man you like in a desperate attempt to get his approval.

His approval is what you are relying on to make you feel better about the personal insecurities that you have, and have carried for a while.

When you overshare these thoughts and experiences with the man you like, you purposely blend the good with the bad.

Such that, you don’t give him too much of the bad and chase him away.

The good includes the memorable experiences that you have had in your life, such as your travels and the fun adventures that you have done in your life.

The bad includes the negative occurrences from your past, some of which were your fault, and some of which weren’t.

These negative occurrences have caused emotional hurt.

In order to stop oversharing your thoughts and experiences to a man you like, you have to reconcile with the bad.

In lieu of looking to a man that you like for his approval and acceptance, look to yourself for approval and acceptance.

Think about the thoughts and experiences you have had that are bad and often make you feel bad.

Ask yourself about why you feel bad about those thoughts and experiences.

Find the root cause for why those specific thoughts and experiences make you feel bad.

Once you know what the root causes are, work on resolving them.

All it takes to reconcile a few of these negative thoughts and experiences from your past is to have a candid conversation with whoever was a major part of it to get closure.

A simple conversation with the person instantly gets rid of the negative thought or experience, and it is no longer an insecurity that you keep oversharing with a man you like.

There are negative thoughts and experiences that require more work.

What if you have an insecurity about someone that you wronged, or vice versa, who you have since lost contact with, and have no way of reconnecting with?

This is where you have to work on forgiving yourself.

To do this, put in the effort to help others who are in the same disadvantaged position that you were in when this negative experience occurred.

All this requires is to give one-time advice to said person or become a constant source of support for said person over a sustained period of time.

Once you do all this work on your negative thoughts and emotions, you won’t yearn to overshare anymore.

There is no requirement to get the acceptance and approval of a man you like.

You have already done the work to get closure, forgive, and assist those who are enduring the same issue.

It’s as though a weight has been lifted off of your shoulders.

Finally, you are ready to date a man you like without having a desire to use said man as a source of emotional relief to help you come to terms with past negativity in your life.