Would You Ever Date Someone Who’s 20, 30, Or Even 40 years Older Than You?

Would You Ever Date Someone Who's 20, 30, Or Even 40 years Older Than You?Dating someone that is 20, 30, or even 40 years older than you has its pros and cons.

Like any relationship, there are bound to be ups and downs.

What separates this relationship from the majority of relationships is the massive age gap.

The truth is, once you are dating someone who is as much as 20 years older than you, adding another decade or two to that age doesn’t make that much of a difference.

A 20 year gap is not that much different from a 30 or 40 year gap in the grand scheme of things.

This is assuming that you aren’t dating someone who is closer to death’s door.

If you are 50, dating someone who is 40 years older than you, that puts the person at 90 years of age.

Obviously, there are monumental hiccups that come with this on a health and life sustainability standpoint.

In other words, his health is most likely already compromised at 90 and you don’t have much time to spend with him on this earth before he passes away.

Ergo, it is a good idea to be aware of how much time the person you are dating generally has to live, based on how long people live at his age on average.

If you are dating someone that you fall in love with, you are naturally going to want to spend as much time with him as possible.

All of this being said, assuming you are dating someone who is in good health, with lots of years still to live, there are pros and cons that accompany having a large age gap in the relationship.

As aforementioned, barring health and how much time the person has left to live, a 20, 30, or 40 year age gap in a relationship isn’t all that different.

You are of disparate generations, whether there is a 20, 30, or 40 year gap.

An profound advantage of this is the ability to learn from someone who has been around for decades longer than you.

This makes you a wiser person and keeps you from making the same mistakes that your peers who date those around their age are making.

With a person this much older by your side, you make better life choices, whether it be in finances, relationships that you cultivate, or with your health.

It’s like you get a cheat sheet on how to live your best life without having to go through the obstacles that people your age would go through in dating someone around their age.

A disadvantage of dating someone who is decades older than you is in how society at large will cast judgment on your relationship.

You will be negatively judged by family members, friends, coworkers, and strangers in public.

This can put a lot of strain on a relationship.

It’s a strain that can easily bleed into the relationship if you let it.

This leads to having unnecessary fights with him over nonsensical issues, all of which affect the general health of the relationship.

Keep this in mind should you choose to date someone who is decades older than you.

You must be prepared to be impervious to outside scrutiny.

As long as you know that he makes you happy and enriches your life, that is all that matters.