Why Would An Emotionally Unavailable Guy Go On A Dating App And Go On A Date With Me, Just To Cut Things Off And Reveal This After The Fact?

Why Would An Emotionally Unavailable Guy Go On A Dating App And Go On A Date With Me, Just To Cut Things Off And Reveal This After The Fact?He hadn’t accepted through and through that he is emotionally unavailable.

Guys aren’t adept at working through their emotions.

Instead of dealing with the emotional repercussions of a breakup, they ignore them.

Consequently, several get on a dating app to find someone new.

This is how he found you.

He matched with you, went out on a date with you, and cut things off soon after.

He did so after finally accepting that he is emotionally unavailable.

It took a while for him to acknowledge and accept that he is emotionally unavailable.

He went out on dates with a number of girls before he went out with you.

With each date, it was apparent that he had an emotional block, but he refused to completely accept it.

His date with you was the straw that broke the camel’s back.

He had to come clean in telling you that he is emotionally unavailable.

I know this is hard for you to take.

After all, when you matched with him on a dating app, there was great conversation and so much you learned that you have in common with him.

You haven’t had it all that great on dating apps.

There are specific qualities that you are looking for in a partner.

So many guys haven’t met these qualities, as you have navigated the dating app.

This guy on the other hand met what you were looking for in a partner.

This makes it all the more upsetting that he was never emotionally available to you.

It renders all the time you spent chatting with him and developing a connection, a pure waste.

You are well within your rights to be upset at being led on by him.

Know that you aren’t the only girl that he has matched with on a dating app that has gone through this.

Being that he has been denying or hiding the emotional damage that was an aftereffect of a previous relationship, he has been matching with unsuspecting women on the dating app without any conscience.

He never took a moment to consider that he would be leading these matches on.

All he cared about was making himself forget about the emotional damage caused by the breakup.

As a guy who isn’t trained nor adept in coming to terms and reconciling with his emotions, he chose to escape to a dating app, wanting to be distracted from these emotions.

He forced himself to believe that he was ready to move on and find someone new.

He wanted to believe that there was no emotional damage caused by the breakup.

With this thinking, he got on a dating app and matched with several women, some of whom he went out on dates with.

All have ended up where you are now.

Disappointed, feeling misled and used.

There isn’t much else you can do about his emotional unavailability.

There is no forcing someone to get over a bitter breakup.

The responsibility you have is to yourself.

Don’t let this keep you from maintaining a positive attitude with your future matches and giving them a chance.

There are no assurances that this won’t happen again.

Nevertheless, from this point forward, avoid getting too excited and emotionally invested in a match too early.

This keeps you from getting ahead of yourself, and being disappointed, should you run into a similar situation in the future.