When you are in your 20s as a man or woman, there is a general mentality that you are impervious to aging.

To that end, if you are a player, you play the field.

For the most part, men and women don’t date all that seriously in their 20s, especially in their early to mid 20s.

Being young, there is a feeling that there is no hurry to settle down and be with someone with the intent of being with them for the rest of your life.

You become a player, dating whoever you please.

With this mindset, you don’t care all that much about how it all plays out with the people you date.

After all, you are in your 20s and have your whole life ahead of you.

This is the attitude of men and women in their 20s who are players.

Once you get into your 30s, your mindset starts to change.

The prevalent idea that you are immortal and have all the time in the world diminishes.

You are no longer as excited about sleeping with as many women or men as possible.

Been there, done that.

With your mortality finally at the forefront of your thoughts, you are thinking about leaving a legacy.

This is where you aren’t all that motivated about going out to the nightclubs to find someone to sleep with.

If anything, you feel old when you go out to the nightclubs.

Everyone around is seemingly in their 20s.

This is yet another massive indication to you that you are becoming too old to be a player.

All of a sudden, you are the butt of jokes from these 20 year old men and women as they call you an old timer.

Reality hits you in the face.

You are no longer a spring chicken.

You are indeed mortal and the world is letting you know it in no uncertain terms.

To this end, being a player doesn’t feel as good as it once did.

The men and women in their 20s that you meet at these social venues are asking you about whether you are going to settle down, get married, have kids, etc.

This is a hard pill to swallow.

It was not long ago that you would be out in these social venues in your 20s, fitting right in as you partied, drank, hooked up with people, and enjoyed the life of a player.

You are no longer in your 20s and the world is repeatedly reminding you of that fact.

The same crowd of 20 year old men and women that you were once a part of are now questioning why you are frequenting the social venues they occupy.

All of a sudden, it is no longer fun to be out there living a life of unhinged freedom.

The question of whether it is sensible to keep being a player beyond your 20s becomes a looming question in your mind.

A part of you doesn’t want to let go of the unhinged lifestyle you once lived, but another part is being constantly reminded that you are too old to keep living that lifestyle.

The truth is, whether it is sensible to continue being a player or not comes down to where you are at mentally at this stage in your life.

You have to make a decision on the life you want to live.

Do you have a strong impulse to find a meaningful long-term relationship or a stronger impulse to remain a player?

It’s never wise to force yourself to date seriously when you aren’t there mentally.

Even though society is repeatedly reminding you that you are too old to be a player, the only one that can make that decision is you.

If you cave to societal pressure when you aren’t mentally ready to settle down, you are bound to have failed future relationships that never stood a chance of lasting long term.

This is where you are emotionally unavailable and constantly cheating on these partners.

Only when you are mentally ready to pursue serious relationships should you do so.