When there is no motivation to date and put yourself out there, you are staying in your comfort zone.
You don’t want to break out of that comfort zone.
It’s far too comfortable to stay in it.
In your comfort zone, you know what to expect, and you are in control.
When you are in control, it is much easier to maintain a fairly consistent state of mind.
Basically, you aren’t experiencing ups and downs in your mood.
You aren’t going through emotions that are foreign to you.
Your comfort zone is consistent and safe.
The thought of breaking out of it to date women and put yourself out there, is scary.
It puts you out of your element, in an outside environment that you have no control over.
The world of dating is the outside world.
It doesn’t matter how you choose to go about it, whether it be through online dating, or through meeting people in person, it is a massive step outside of your comfort zone, and it’s scary.
This is where you lose the motivation to date and put yourself out there.
As far as you are concerned, staying inside of your comfort zone is much better than the unknown of the outside world.
One that involves having to communicate with women, which isn’t behavior you are used to doing.
It is normal to not want to put yourself in a situation that is unfamiliar to you.
It is human nature.
As human beings, we love staying in our comfort zone.
It’s familiar and safe.
That being said, over centuries, humanity has had to get out of its comfort zone to survive and make progress.
Without this, there would be no advancements of human society.
That means no running water, electricity, transportation, medicine, etc.
Humanity had to break out of its comfort zone to make these achievements.
These achievements, many of which you are enjoying in your own life today, were necessary.
They were necessary so as to keep humanity from remaining in the stone age.
An age where life was a struggle, disease was rampant, and mortality was high.
You see, to better your life, breaking out of your comfort zone is necessary.
Even though this requires that you get out of your comfort zone.
Indeed, it is a risk, but without risk, there is no reward.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life without any female companionship?
Are there moments in your life where you get lonely or horny?
Playing video games isn’t the solution.
And no, the virtual friends you make on the video game apps, some of whom so happen to be women, don’t equate to real life relationships.
Envision yourself decades from now as an old man, all alone in your messy living room, with calloused hands, besieged with arthritis, barely capable of holding your gaming console, let alone use it.
Is that a good picture?
How about a different vision.
One where you are an old man, in a clean and homely living room, with the smell of a home-cooked meal wafting from the nearby kitchen, and your calloused hands being soothed by a cream that your lifelong female partner is applying on them.
There is no gaming console.
You can’t use it anyway.
There is you, in that lovely clean home, with a woman who loves you wholeheartedly.
Is this a better picture?
Surely, it is.
Granted, you have a lot of life to live between now and old age, but time flies fast.
Without taking a risk in getting out of your comfort zone and meeting women for dating, you sentence yourself to a life bereft of love and companionship.
As you age, and your body becomes frail, it’s highly probable you come to regret choosing to stay in your comfort zone.