A rebound girl is never as meaningful or important as the ex who leaves a guy.
This is a guy who isn’t emotionally available to you.
Yes, he is charming and has a knack for tickling your funny bone.
All of this makes you feel so good whenever you are with him.
But, this doesn’t mean that he is emotionally available to you.
He isn’t.
His heart belongs to the ex who left him.
He never wanted her to leave and hasn’t given up on the idea that she comes back to him.
As long as he continues to believe that there is hope in her coming back to him some day, he is incapable of being fully emotionally available to anyone else.
That means you.
No matter how good of a time you have with him, he won’t have the capability to fully open himself up to you.
Regardless of how well you treat him, or how great you are in bed, none of this changes the reality that he is mentally incapable of fully opening himself up to you.
All you are is the rebound girl.
You are the one he uses to alleviate the pain he endures from the painful breakup he went through with his ex.
You are the one he uses for company and sex.
To him, you are only as meaningful and important to him as what you provide for him in this moment.
What you provide is a reprieve from the pain of the breakup.
A woman is susceptible to falling for a guy like this.
The emotionally unavailable guy is attractive to many women.
He is a challenge, which makes him hard to get.
An emotionally unavailable guy attracts women like a moth is attracted to a flame.
You think that you are so special, you are the one who finally gets him to open up emotionally.
Inadvertently, while you are in this process, you fall for him.
Soon, you are telling yourself that you are making headway and that it is only a matter of time before he falls for you too.
It’s all lies.
Lies you are telling yourself, and lies he is telling you.
As long as you are providing company and fulfilling his physical needs, he is getting a reprieve from constantly thinking about his ex.
This makes him deem you of value for now.
To this end, he tells you what you want to hear.
He knows that you have fallen for him, and doesn’t want to lose you in telling you that he doesn’t love you in kind.
He tells you what you want to hear to keep you around.
Considering that you are emotionally compromised at this stage, you want to believe what he is saying when he tells you that he loves you too.
As a consequence, you stick around.
By sticking around, you become that much more emotionally attached to him, making it harder for you to see that he is only lying to you to keep you around and use you.
It’s dangerous to get involved with a guy as a rebound girl.
His sole intention is to take care of his immediate psychological and physical needs.
Long term, he is incapable of taking you seriously and falling for you.
Know this, so that you steer clear from getting involved with a man as his rebound girl.
It saves you much time wasted and a whole lot of heartbreak.