Taking it slow with shy girl, is it the right approach

[Jason]

So I went on a second date with a girl yesterday (bowling), she accepts all my invitations to meet, we talk for hours, she laughs and we generally have a good time. But, she is super shy, and it’s making the normal process of things more difficult because she seems interested in many ways, but her body language sometimes seems to be a bit defensive.

I want to escalate the situation, but I also don’t want to invade her personal space (she is very conscious of physical contact) Should I just admit my feelings for her so I know for sure, or do I continue building trust and build up to touching?

[Luke]

Hi Jason,

If she is this shy, it would be a good idea to go on a date with her where physical closeness and touching would be necessary.

A few examples would be going dancing or taking a dance class together or playing one on one basketball or some other contact sport together for fun.

There is going to be inadvertent touching here and that may get her to become more comfortable with you as the date wears on.

Say you decide to go get a bite to eat after playing ball or taking a dance class, there is a better chance that she would be more receptive to your touch at some point during the course of your interaction.

Try this angle on your third date and see how things go.

[Author]

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