Long distance relationship advise

[Maria]

Hello

I’m a 30 year old single mom who lives in Venezuela that was in a long distance relationship just a week ago.. I met my boyfriend/ex a little over a year and a half ago on tinder.. he is an American 33 year old guy who was just divorcing from his wife. It all started very casual but as time progressed we found each other talking more and more.. sending pictures, talking on the phone and video chats.. he became very important to me since I come from a very dysfunctional family and the current situation in my country is horrible.. even so I didn’t really think we had chance so I pushed him away many times but he stayed and he made my heart fall for him.

So after a year I went to the USA and met him.. it was my idea he never asked me to. I met him and we clicked instantly, we kissed on our first date and almost had sex on the second. It was really intense.. I stayed for a month and during that period of time we hanged out as much as we could so when it was the time to leave I became very anxious, we talked and I told him how insecure I was feeling about things so he asked me to be his girlfriend, he proposed that we could have a long distance relationship and I thought that was unfair but agreed in the end.

When I came back we talked on the phone everyday and video chat everytime we could and it was good to a point, he planned on coming over and bought a plane ticket but when the day came he couldn’t come because of some stupid visa he had to get so I couldn’t see him and I became depressed and anxious.. he did many diligencies to finally be able to get the visa but he could not come until June.. we had our first argument a few days later because i could not go to the USA as much as I liked and stay for much long because i have to be with my son also.. but we eventually agreed that i should go on may and then July so he bought me a ticket and stayed with him for 9 days And it was all good and magical until I came back.. the situation in my country is so bad I makes me feel very bad and a week after I came we had a very big argument and i told him he didn’t care about me living this hell and that he was happy having me away from him. He got really mad at me but still asked me how he could make things better that he didn’t know what to do.. I told him I wanted to be together like any other couple but he still told me he didn’t know what to do so it made me feel even more anxious so I didn’t want to talk to him, the next three days he became very silent and he told me he was very angry at me and the next day he didn’t talk to me at all so I took it he was done and we broke up that night.

He broke my heart completely because I do have feelings for him and he told me he did too so I don’t understand his behavior.. we once talked about the only way for me to stay in the USA was to marry him and he said no since he had a very hard divorce and that he didn’t want to go through that again..

I would really appreciate some advice on this my heart is totally broken.

Thank you

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