Is my professor hitting on me?

[Truth]

I don’t think my professor is hitting on me, yet my mom and friends do. He is married and I want it to just be a friendship because he is a nice person. This is the second semester I have taken classes with him. He is thirty and I am twenty. We spend an average of five hours of week together talking or in class.

Here are some reasons why my mom thinks he likes me: 1) He makes me come to his office to answer my questions after class. (He answers everyone else’s questions after class.) He encourages me to come to office hours regularly. 2) He saves the hardest lecture questions, specifically on uncovered material, for me. 3) He complements me on my looks often. 4) He asks me to come to him for help in my other classes and to take more classes that he teaches. 5) He teases me often. 6) Before I took the final this semester, he told me I would get an A in the course. 7) There are several times he did little things that seem like flirting to my friends.

I don’t see what they see. Please share your thoughts.

[A]

I have the same question. Hope someone answers your thread.

[A]

These pictures we get with our comments are a little weird. (Just saying)

[Truth]

I agree. I thought you all picked them. Mine looks fine. lol

[Adelle]

He may like you but it doesn’t matter. He is married.
He may be attracted to you physically and enjoy your personality and company.
But he obviously does not like you enough to cheat on his wife.
Unless he blatantly tells you that he wants to have an affair with you, or that he is interested in leaving his wife for you do not let any of his actions get to your head.

Many married people interact with the opposite gender on a regular basis and maybe because of natural physical attraction they may act in a way that comes across as flirty or “interested.”

But none of this matters because as long as they are loyal to their current partner, the person they care about is their PARTNER. NOT you

also what is the point of wondering if a married man is attracted to you? Are you interested in becoming part of an extra marital affair?
I’m sure you’re not that type of person.

[Truth]

Sounds like you said yes and no to the question. Please know that I am not asking out of sexual curiosity; rather, because I will have to be around this individual until I graduate and I do not enjoy friendship “surprises.”

[Adelle]

He may very well be attracted to you physically and also enjoy your company
But unless he asks you out, you should assume that this is simply a liking towards you and that he does not plan on having any further relationship with you other than what you both have right now.
If his current actions and behavior do not make you uncomfortable then by all means continue your interactions with him normally.

it’s important to keep in mind that we have all been in situations where we are attracted to someone physically and also enjoy their company but do not think of being in a relationship with them at all. Think of couples who are all friends with each other. Or a guy who is in a committed relationship with someone but also has many friends that are girls.and vice versa.

Attraction does not always mean the other person wants to pursue you or be in any sort of relationship with you.

[Adelle]

The main factor is that he is married.
His flirty actions, friendliness, and desire to spend time with you should not be taken seriously.

To me it seems like he finds you attractive both physically and personality wise, but he is not thinking of anything more than enjoying you in the moment and having fun. Probably because he is married.

Men who are taken do tend to flirt with girls non seriously. This isn’t a good thing to do but men do it. They like having fun in the moment and want the ego boost they would get if the girl responded to them positively.
If the girl does respond they usually start ignoring her, because their intentions weren’t serious in the first place. They are committed to their partner.
This isn’t good behavior. obviously it’s wrong on all levels to flirt with anyone other than your current partner.
But many men do this and girls should keep this in mind during any interaction with a taken man.

[Truth]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.:)

[Author]

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