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October 30, 2019 at 12:36 am #104514KrissyGuest
Hi Luke, so is it possible to have male friends without falling for them? How do I separate the two? I just wanna be prepared for this possibility in the future. In the past, I ended up really liking a guy friend but it just wasn’t the right time and I didn’t want to be serious with anyone. Can it be helped? Thank so much for your help so far.October 30, 2019 at 1:04 am #104515
Yes, it is possible to just be friends with a guy without falling for him.
To separate the two, only befriend guys of whom there is no attraction, whether it be one-sided or mutual, and avoid any form of flirtation with your male friends.
Even something as seemingly harmless as a male friend who compliments you from time to time on your physicality or even fashion sense, could lead to you beginning to fall for him.
If you notice that any of your male friends continuously compliment you, let them know that you rather they don’t.
Be polite about it, but firm.
Falling for a male friend can most certainly be helped as long as you are diligent and ensure that you don’t allow sneaky triggers such as the occasional lighthearted flirtation to go unchecked.November 9, 2019 at 7:51 pm #104673KrissyGuest
I think it would be a few decent male friendships to be honest since attraction is more common than not. I like the idea of avoiding friendships with those where attraction is one-sided or mutual. Just makes things less complicated and more about genuine friendship which I want. Will nip incoming flirting in the bud but it’ll be easier to avoid flirting on my end if I’m not attracted, fyi.
The person I brought up in this situation recently contacted me. We went our seperate ways a couple months ago because I needed to focus on my spiritual goals. Still am, which I had to tell him again. I met him online and he lives in a different country. I feel that I should just avoid accepting friend requests from male strangers all together. Ya think??November 10, 2019 at 2:26 pm #104695
Accepting friend requests from male strangers can put you in a difficult situation.
A lot of male strangers who send you a friend request are doing so because they are attracted to you.
If you just want to maintain platonic relationships with males, it may be best to avoid accepting those friend requests.November 10, 2019 at 5:45 pm #104698KrissyGuest
Cheers I totally agree with you. I’m not going to accept their friend requests. Does this apply to those I meet offline?November 11, 2019 at 11:57 am #104705
It may be best to avoid accepting friend requests from guys that you meet offline until you have established enough familiarity with them to determine whether they are truly seeking a platonic friendship.
Once you have established this, you would be in a far better position to accept their friend request because you would know that they are just looking to be friends and nothing more.November 11, 2019 at 4:04 pm #104725KrissyGuest
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