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I’ve only had sex with one person (overrated), never given oral sex (disgusting) and enjoy kissing to a degree but that’s it. I’m 25 and if you tell me I will never have sex again, I could care less. I guess it’s a matter of not meeting the right person. But I feel like everyone has more dating and relationship/sexual experience. It has just never really intrigued me compared to how others are obsessed with it. I’ve been interested in getting married and settling down one day but that’s it. Do I sound asexual?
Hi Meredith,
Asexuality is characterized often by a lack of sexual desire or attraction towards others.
By age 25, many women have experienced several years of heightened sexual desire and activity. This period typically starts at about age 18. If you are now 25 and have only had disdain for the little sexual experience that you have had, you may indeed be asexual.
As long as there has been no mental or physical abuse in your history, you may simply be someone who would rather engage in other activities and not really require physical intimacy to experience a heightened sense of stimulation.
You are not alone in this. There are a good number of people who are asexual. Hence, the fact that you don’t crave sexual activity isn’t necessarily abnormal.
However, as you did state, you may not have met the right person. Perhaps you really need to be mentally and emotionally stimulated by someone before you are able to truly desire becoming intimate with them.
It may be best to start putting yourself around the kinds of men that may stimulate you mentally and emotionally. Oftentimes, these are the kind of men that have common interests.
If you rarely expose yourself to these kind of men, you may never truly discover whether your issue is true asexuality or a case of not having met the right guy.
Being that you still desire to get married and settle down one day, you may not be entirely adverse to sexual activity.
After all, you would most likely be engaged in sexual activity with that future partner. Hence, there may still be some wiggle room in terms of your sexual appetite.
Thanks Luke
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