Is he attracted to me or is this in my head?

[Kiara]

So there is this man that I know at my church but we are not close friends just mostly an acquaintance and I see him at social gatherings. I have known him for 4 years and the situation I am about to describe has happened during this time period.  First time I noticed something is when I was talking to him with another man  and him together, he did not look at me that much but stared down at his notebook and kept smiling. He was rather quiet while the other guy and I were engaged in the conversation. Later I will catch him several times stare at me when I left my seat to use the bathroom during church service ( Could see through the windows). One day he came up to my car to talk to me while I was inside and he was outside got really close bended down to my eye level and was smiling and asking me questions. Then after he walked away with some distance away we both turned around and looked at each other with smiles on our faces. Another time while I was tending to some kids, I turned around to catch him looking at me with these lustful eyes . He was bended over on a table acting like he was writing something only to be staring at me. I saw him and quickly looked away. But his eyes had this longing look on it. Many times too he has come up to me in church to talk and he got really in my personal space with a smile on his face with which he will look at the ground and then look at me but then  I move back a little and to the side so people did not think something was going on between us. Recently at parties I have seen him  stealing glances at me from afar with a closed smile and when I saw him I quickly look down or away not to show sign of interest. At one time too when he was leaving a party he got close to me by the side and whispered bye in a slow manner with a smile like it was our little secret. This caught me off guard so I did not look at him but said bye quickly and nicely. But then still caught of guard and wondering what just happened, I looked across the room to see him smiling and looking at me.But I quickly looked away. The crazy thing is that we are both married to others so I am trying to avoid problems but it seems that he is attracted to me and I am fancing that but trying to be careful. Another time at another social gathering he stared at me and I looked at him only  for me again to to quickly look down. The same day when my husband and I were talking and smiling  at each other he was looking at us and when I caught him I quickly looked down.when I looked seconds later he looked away. The most recent situation is after church he walked toward me and stood really really close to me looked at me in the eye with no smile but raising is eyebrows at me like he expected me to say something. I had my head lowered like I was looking at other things so when he got really close I raised my eyes and eyebrows to him with a smile and said hi but did it in a weird manner to signal to him what does he want from me when he did not say anything. Then he looked down slowly and smiled to himself and walked away without saying anything. So I have been trying to figure what that meant. The next church service I did not look at him at all but I could see him looking and stealing glances at me from afar. He noticed I did not give him attention because the last encounter was really awkward. I really want to know if he really likes me, or want me or not. I have avoided getting close to him or his family partly bc of this. Please advice…

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