I messed up, should i try to see her again?

[Julian]

I had been talking to this girl i knew since we were about 15 – 16 years old. We hadnt seen in each other in almost 4 years and had been texting and snapchatting for the past 4 months. She would sext me and tell me all the things she wanted to do when we hooked up. So we go out on a date and after when i drive her back to her car, i make a move. She just doesnt say anything when i ask her if she wants to leave or stay. So i try again and she walks out kf my car. I get out follow her tl her car and try to apalogize but she just gives me the silent treatment as kf im not even there. Next day i apologized km snapchat saying how sorry i was. She said “you straight up put your hands on me when i was obviously uncomfortable”. Why would she tell me we would hookup if when i make my move she doesnt want to anymore. Btw she blocked me on snapchat after i said that and instagram too. The next day i tried calling her, went straight because she probably blocked my cell nimber. So i dm her on instagram and i said “Im not doing this anymore so ill be blunt…im sorry…next time dont text me one thing before i see you and act differntly…i dont have time for games…i left that shit in highschool…hmu again when you know what you want because i do not have time for games. Bye.” All she responded was “HA”. What does that mean? I really like her but i know I acted so immaturely but i do want to be with her. How do I contact her and fix what I did?

[lola]

You are not the one acting immaturely. She is. In fact you are the most mature one in this situation since you even apologized after not necessarily doing anything wrong. If she felt like she was ready to get to the next level through her online messages, then of course that is what you would expect when you meet in person. I think you should let this one go for a bit. Soon she will realize where she went wrong. You don’t need to feel guilty about it or get caught up in her BS. She’ll come back to you if its meant to be.

[Julian]

Thanks for the advice lola. One of my closest girlfriends even told me that this girl “isnt grown. She may look grown, but shes still acting like a little girl playing games”. And my aunt also told me “the dogs that bark the loudest never bite”. I just cant get over havijg touched her even if it was just one hand on her thigh and then a finger under her chin to try and kiss her. I feel like a monster. Moreso because i actaully like her, not just because i find her really hot, obviously, but she holds serious convos about real wolrd issues and is just chill. That was a turning point in my life in terms of dating. Im never making that mistake again

[Micheal]

you got to ease in when making the move take it slow, make her feel comfortable, i think you might of rushed it. you should of build up the sexual mood more by using tension words and using eye contact and teasing her with touches. then you should of made your move. she states you str8 up put your hands on her, thats why im assuming you did set the mood right and rushed the whole thing.

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